When You Got Married, How Did You Decide Who Would Do What In The Household? As Far As Cleaning, Cooking....?

Question

Did you discuss it beforehand, or did it just come natural, and you don't have any set roles? I know things like chores aren't huge issues.....I guess i'm just interested in how married couples ease into living together, and get adjusted to it. Should you talk about everything before you even walk down the aisle, or is it better to just go with the flow and let things happen naturally?

Answer 1

Well me and my wife we never discussed anything. I mean during the course of dating she knew I like to cook. So whenever I' m off from work I usually cook. I basically fell into the role I had at mom house, the guy things, putting out the trash, cut the yard, wash dishes etc. My wife usually do the so called girl things, most of the cooking, cleaning the house, fixing the bed. What you will find out through the course of marriage is that one of you is an organizer, one of you will be neater than the orther. Just remember you will both have strength and weakness but don't worry if you really love each other things will work out believe me.....Good Luck.

Answer 2

Well I got married 10 months ago and everything my wife did i.e; kitchen, master bed room, bathrooms, guestrooms, living rooms and all the above. But where I drew the line was the garage and the game room. I told her you can do what ever you want in the house, design it the way she wanted to and paint the walls any color as long as she had taste (which she did) =) She just didn't mess with the garage and the game room and my side of the sink in the bathroom, so it really just comes naturally and also at the same time the reason why I really didn't say anything is because I didn't want to hear after wards if it didn't look good. Also be smart. =)...GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

First of all...my husband and I lived together before we got married, and in my opinion, this is the ONLY way to go. I understand that some people have religious and cultural reasons why this is totally unacceptable, but to me it is totally necessary BECAUSE of your very question.

I think that too many people just try to fall into life together thinking that things will come naturally, but it isn't always that way. My husband and I had a little period of "adjustment" when we first got together, and after talking things over we met somewhere in the middle and we're both happy. However, I have a friend who ran off with her boyfriend and got married before living with him and after 2 years, thier marriage was over. The biggest reason for thier split was, in her words "We just can't figure out how to LIVE together...we're great on vacations, but we suck at home." She blames her shallow knowledge about the "roles" they would both take when they were married for the split.

So, if you're not going to live together, you MUST talk about things like this first. Make sure that there aren't expectations that can't be met.

Answer 4

My husband and that i the two paintings so the failings that I do: a million. cook dinner...or we the two meet one yet another after paintings for dinner. 2. sparkling the homestead 3. Do the laundry 4.Take out the trash 5. Dishes Husband does: a million. Takes out the trash (most of the time) 2 Mows the backyard and trims the trees 3. Does the laundry each and every so often 4. facilitates me sparkling the homestead 5. Dishes issues we the two do at the same time: a million. chop up the expenses on who gets to pay what 2.Groceries and enjoyed ones products 3. sparkling the homestead on our days off 4. take care of the backyard paintings 5. Dishes In our marriage it is greater like one hundred% for me and one hundred% for him somewhat than 50-50.

Answer 5

If you have to think about it, then obviously you better discuss roles and tasks with your mate. In my case, we both continue to do the chores that we would have had to do whether we were together or not. We are both clean freaks and very tidy, if something needs to be done, either of us are capable of addressing it.
Living together is not a natural state, it requires a lot of patience and compromise.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

When we got married everything just flowed naturally. He was 8 years older than me and had lived alone for years before me so he was use to doing the work. It's basic common sense- if you mess it up then you clean it up. If there was a pile of dirty clothes - wash them....ect.

No big deal.

Answer 7

The spirit is that if you love your spouse, you'll make your spouse happy. If you want to have all the work that you don't like to do to be done by someone else, hire a helper. Let things happen naturally. Good luck.

Answer 8

I did all the work outside the house,yardwork ,repairs,upkeep,and some of the cooking.She does all the work inside ,laundry,cleaning,decorating,ect.ect.
This was the way both of happened to be raised by our parents. We both hold down fulltime jobs

Answer 9

I do all of the shopping, paying bills, cleaning, cooking, laundry, picking up and dropping off of kids, and my husband does all the work, like at his job. I stay home with my kids, and I love it. I do not expect him to have to clean, cook, or do anything when he gets home, I think this is the way it should be! He's happy and I ;m happy.

Answer 10

I would say it depends on how you were raised. I have Victorian morals. There is woman's work and there is men's work. I married a man who had the same morals. He stays out of my kitchen except to eat....lol. And I don't do yard work unless I want to.