My bestfriend and I are roommates. She considers me as family. Before we talked about everything. Her goals and dreams, relationships, about our familiies problems, the things that will bring happiness into our lives. When she called me and said she was depressed and needed me, she asked me to move in with her, I lived in Florida with family. I only have my mother and one brother here in Tx, I didn't think twice about it. She needed me, I left my family behind. We opened up to eachother. We went everywhere together, even to the store just down the street where we live. We'll have lunch together and go out for dinner regularly. Even go to the sports bar and have a few beers. Know we hardly talk, she doesn't ask me to ride with her, only when she feels like it. She keeps alot from me, she's hardly at home w/ daughter. She doesn't seem to have the time for us. When we do go somewhere together I don't say more than ten words to her. She'll talk to me but I'm short, I don't have much to say
2006-11-09 13:47:16 · 6 answers · asked by ya-ya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is so similar to what happened to me and my "best friend"...its strange how they just go wierd all of a sudden isnt it???
What i ended up doing was asking her out to dinner so we could talk about it...we did but to tell you the truth it really didnt change much...things are still wierd...i think we just have to admit that people change sometimes...dont blame yourself...you did nothing wrong. Just move on...it makes you feel a little used tho doesnt it...
In the end...its not a true friend is it...just keep the peace but go out and live your own life without her...coz she obviously is...its so sad isnt it...but you know what...you WERE a true friend so its her loss!! chin up hunny!
2006-11-09 13:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by hello hello! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drizzle Drozzle Drazzle Drone
Time for someone to go home
I know you came to help her out but perhaps the crisis is over and she does not need you as much. I think that rather then end the friendship you should go back to your own home and see if the friendship livens back up. As Mark Twain once said Fish and houseguests begin to stink after 3 days. Time to go home or get you one to go to.
2006-11-09 13:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just answer your own question... If it is hard for you to say it.. why don't you print what you wrote here and give it to her.....tel her to read it right away and wait for her reaction/answer. She might have a problem that she might feel you shouldn't know about because is embarrasing.. If she doesn't react to that then give her time... and if still no change.. then move back with your family. Maybe it's her way of telling you that she wants to be by herself.
2006-11-09 13:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Me, Myself and I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a co-dependent, you allowed her to use you to get over a rough patch in her life. She has now moved on, and she has taken you for granted. It's time for you to realize that you need to move on too.
2006-11-09 13:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by mischa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever! Just move on..it isnt the end of the world.
2006-11-09 13:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sensitive and honest because if you don't you'll just make it worse
2006-11-09 13:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by jason d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋