This occured yesterday my son accused me of steeling $5 from his shorts Itold him I only folded them he said so you stole it because you folded them and its not there I got angry and told him to go to his room hewent to bed and pulled the covers over his head I told him to come out for breakfast he didnt I told him to have a shower he didnt I told him to get ready he was late for school and i work he wouldnt get up so I left him there and he had to make his own way to catch a bus he reluctantly appologied when I got home from work we were going out for dinner he couldnt find his fav shorts so he said he wouldnt go i found them and said lets go he sat down and said he wasnt going because he changed his mind i couldnt get him to come so i went without him ate quick cos i was worried and went home he wasnt there his dad doesnt live with us so he picked him up and my son refuses to come home if there is a problem my son calls him discreatly& gets his dad to get him his dad doesnt care
2006-11-09 13:29:42 · 11 answers · asked by Nicky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
btw I am married so my son has a step father who tries so hard with him but my son makes things so complicated at times his dad doesn't like my husband because hes jelious so he doesn't help the situation i'm more concerned that if my son does something wrong he gets punished and then gets out of it by getting his dad to come and get him how am i supposed to teach my son anything?
2006-11-09 13:32:57 · update #1
You and the ex need to set your issues aside and discuss how you are going to raise the son, putting his best interests first. He is playing you both, that's what kids do, even in homes with both parents. You have to decide on a course of action and stick with it, consistency is one of the most difficult things but shows the child you both mean business. Let your ex know that you're interested in his help, but he needs to stick to the plan. You need to support one another in this. I hope you are able to do this, or the son will continue to go back and forth until he's on his own. It won't create a stability within him - be responsible, not emotional and talk w/the ex. Hope it works out. You can do it!
2006-11-09 13:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confer with him, and enable him comprehend that he's merely too youthful to be sexually energetic. He desires to get an training previously he finally ends up with a toddler of out wetlock. by using fact as quickly as somebody will become a discern, the training would ought to end and vice versa. I dont think of beating your toddler is nessacary except he's extremely complicated headed. (Geez you persons are abusive. o_O merely strictly tell him, he will finally end up a teenager dad with a low paying job if he keeps this up.
2016-12-28 17:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your son is being 13. My brother acted the same way. It wouldn't hurt to go to counseling, but I think the person that you need to talk to is your ex. He is undermining your parental authority with your son. I'm not sure if you guys are amicable with one another, but I think you should try and get him to compromise with you about not immediately picking your son up when you guys argue. Your son sees this out as his leverage and is using it as a way to hurt you.
2006-11-09 13:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Bass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This issue may be deeper than his thinking you stole his $5, maybe he is just looking for an excuse to be mad at you.
This may be problems caused by the absence of his dad or by problems at school. Try talking to the school councilor.
Best Wishes
2006-11-09 13:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the teenage years!!!!! One thing I would tell him to do is to take anything out of his clothes that he doesn't want to go into the washer. Or better yet, teach him how to wash his own clothes. If there was money in his pants pocket, it probably came out while in the washer.
He certainly sounds like he's getting to that "nobody can tell me anything" stage.
Good luck.
2006-11-09 13:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 13 too AND U want to know what I think...I think u need tear his little but up!!!!! H e sounds like a spoit brat to me,sorry to offend U but the truth sometimes hurts!!!!
2006-11-09 13:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by ~♥~Tiffany~♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some definate big issues going on here that are beyond what you are saying.
Maybe he should live with his Dad for a few years.
2006-11-09 13:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the parent. Your son shouldnt tell you "what he can and doesnt have to do".. Take charge, and ground him... When he doesnt move, in demand "tell him to move"... Meaning, when you tell him to come out of his room, and he denies. Go into his room and tell him, that if he doesnt start obeying you, then HE will get grounded......
If you take charge now, He will learn...
2006-11-09 13:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your son would benefit from a few counseling sessions together. Good Luck ! :)
2006-11-09 13:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its proble just a stage and you need to teach him whos the boss. go get him and make him come home. set him straight.
2006-11-09 13:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by sexylove1_2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋