I got home from work and got on the computer and I see a myspace page up, it was for some woman that lives in my area that I don't know. I asked my husband about it and he said its just some girl he knows and that i should "delete it". I emailed the girl and asked how she knows my husband. Did I do the right thing?
2006-11-09 13:27:24 · 34 answers · asked by Angel2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that if he is trying to talk to the woman she won't reply. BUT, knowing that she knows he is married is what I want. I know some women don't care, but then that shows what kind of person she is
2006-11-09 13:42:56 · update #1
Yes you did the right thing.If the shoe was on the other foot.You bet he would have done the same thing.
2006-11-09 13:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, alot of people automatically assuming the worst? None of you know this guy, yet many call him s h * t or worse.
For the person that asked the question, has he ever done anything before to question his commitment to you? Have you ever suspected him of deceiving you? If not, then I would seriously give the guy the benefit of the doubt.
You emailed her, and her reply (or lack thereof) will give you a possible insight to the nature of the relationship. But only having a woman's myspace page up on the computer screen does not mean he is a cheater, and it definately doesn't mean he is a lying "piece of s h * t" like others seem to chime in.
2006-11-09 13:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well...I guess it depends on the type of relationship that you and your husband have. If he has given you reason for suspiscion in the past then yes, I think that you might have done the right thing, then again, it could have been something totally innocent, and by doing what you did, you are sending a message to your husband that you don't trust him. People who aren't trusted often end up BECOMING untrustworthy. Personally...I would have waited till the heat of the moment went away and then watched things for a while before emailing her (though, I do think that confronting him about it with a simple question was the right thing to do).
2006-11-09 13:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but most likely she won't tell you the truth unless she had no idea he was married. If she knew he was married, she doesn't care about cheating with someone else's man, and won't tell you anything. I really hope you didn't delete it. You can find out a lot about someone from a myspace page. Married people shouldn't have friends of the opposite sex anyway, especially if their spouse doesn't know about it. Even if nothing happened between them, I doubt their intentions are innocent.
2006-11-09 13:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes you did the right thing. It is something that will help you sleep at night just knowing who she is. This may sound bad but if my fiance is on the computer and I walk into the room and he suddenly gets off, later I will go back and check his history just to make sure he wasn't doing anything. I wouldn't mind if he did the same to me, because I have nothing to hide! But with your husband you need to realize that if your husband is really just a friend with her, she will probably tell him what you did, which is probably going to cause a huge fight. Just be ready for it.
2006-11-09 13:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kimo 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Now this is what u do next,. Go back online and email the girl acting as your hubby, Tell her that she can come over at a certian time,because your wife (you) will be out of town. then when the ***** shows up, and you know she will, answer the door and tell your hubby, "Ok, you moron, your ride is here" and kick both of their butts to the curb!
2006-11-09 14:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. SmartyPants 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely
2006-11-09 13:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that he had a MySpace account? If you didn't, I would definitely be suspicious, and have done the same. Coming from experience, watch your back.
2006-11-09 13:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by allamerican 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, don't let him fib to you. Why on earth would he be talking on the computer with women in your area anyway? If it's some girl he knows, why haven't the two of you women been introduced? Why hasn't he mentioned her before to you, his wife? Sneaky suspicions....
2006-11-09 13:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even if he has cheated on you it doesn't make him a "piece of ****".
People often cheat when they are missing something in their lives.
Yes confront him on it. Find out the truth, but before you kick him out of your life, try to find out the rood causes and see if there is something worth saving and a way to do it.
2006-11-09 13:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Peter D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋