For the last few years my husband and I thought he had Hepatitis C - when he got a call from the Red Cross following a blood donation. Being a guy he tends to miss details etc. He finally called the Red Cross back and found out that he didn’t have Heptatis C but had been “exposed” (Hepatitis A). He’s had his blood drawn for testing recently and we’ll get the results Sunday. I’ve been tested and I don’t have Hepatitis C.
2006-11-09 13:26:36 · 5 answers · asked by Mishy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Now to my issue: a month ago, like a dumbass I mentioned that my husband had hepatitis C when I was at my close friend’s house - who's a nurse practitioner. Obviously I felt more comfortable asking her about it than my physician father and uncle.... Well later, I visited with another friend (in the same group of friends) who has also just had a baby 2 months ago. I am a very warm and cuddly person, squeezing my baby sister’s cheeks etc. but my friend didn’t want me to kiss the baby or anything before she was a month old. So by this time she was 2 months old, so I figured enough time had passed... so I asked her, if I could kiss the baby's cheeks. She said no - and that she 'had to talk to me about something.' She proceeded to tell he that my nurse practitioner friend told her that my husband has hepatitis C etc. I acted like it didn't bug me but of course when I was getting in my car afterwards, I was so PISSED! And -- I don't even have the virus!
2006-11-09 13:27:34 · update #1
She’s sort of a “quiet” person who comes off as quite aloof and almost a snob, but it’s because she’s quiet. Anyway, we've all been friends since undergrad etc. and are now 30 years old. I can't believe she would say that to me! I called her from my car and told her that I was pissed that, here I was, confiding in my friends and seeking their knowledge (re: the hepatitis c) and then they just use it against me. My friend's like 'well I don't let anyone kiss her...' -- and I'm like 'well that's fine -- but why did you have to say that stuff about my husband having hepatitis c? like that's something I have control over or something?! And she said quietly 'I'm sorry I hurt your feelings.' But I don't feel like that's enough! I feel like I want a much more copious apology at least! I haven’t been calling her etc. but she probably hasn’t even noticed. I even skipped the potluck at my nurse practitioner friend’s house, but I doubt she noticed... I want her to really apologize...
2006-11-09 13:28:59 · update #2
I feel like I want to be really subtle though... I want to make her think "...she's mad at me.... I shouldn't have said that stupid stuff..... I wonder if she's mad at me" etc. etc. I don't want to confront her; I just want to somehow make her realize it.... but she's kind of like a stereotypical guy.... not overly perceptive etc. etc. What should I do? I could care less about kissing her baby's cheeks etc. I just want her to really really apologize.
2006-11-09 13:34:24 · update #3
OK, so I'm only 12 years old, but i am having similar problems. i told my friend that i liked her boyfriend, thinking he was cute and nice. she got pissed and told everybody i was a hore. i really want to apologize, and heres how i might. friend, i no i hurt your feelings, but i love you just like your boyfriend. I'm sorry, but if your gonna call me a hore, well than f*** you you stupid *****.
but then again I'm smaller. you should try along the terms of listen, i don't have hepatitis c. i am not going to give it to your child, listen I'm sorry that you are afraid for your babies life because of me, and if you don't want me to kiss it that's fine but listen, i don't and please don't tell anyone else.
2006-11-09 13:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen a lot of mothers do the same thing after having a child. I even had a friend who would not let me touch her child when it was 3 months because she heard I had asthma and didn't know what it was. She's just being cautious and a little over protective. I think you just need to have a talk with her.
2006-11-09 13:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by ill_state00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may feel she was protecting the public by spreading these tales. Since she was not your nurse, patient confidentiality isn't an issue, but being a tattle tale is.
You have two choices: end your relationship with her or forgive her, totally. The second is the hardest. In the first you run away, the second you forgo your "need" for an apology and accept her shortcomings, accepting her with her flaws. In the end, closure will come with the second path. In the first her indiscretion will gnaw at you for years. In the second, it will disappear. Your choice.
2006-11-09 13:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's over protective. Tell her to wake up to reality. But keep her your friend.
2006-11-09 13:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply say to her that you simply used to be joking round and did not recognize it might offend you in how it did. As lengthy as you gave her time to chill off, she must recognize your real sorry.
2016-09-01 10:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋