What is there to live for??

Question

I was thinking in class today, what is it all for. we work so hard for what??? i cant think of a single reason i would want to live another day. They say after i get out of college, i will have such a great future. I have never seen a single happy person out of college. they first say marriage is the reason to stay alive. I have very little faith that a nagging woman who will quit having sex as soon as she gets the ring could make me happy. then they claim you will have all this money once you get your engineering degree. What am i going to use the money for if im all alone?? Are there any other reasons. i cant think of any???

Answer 1

Wow still in college. You are young, and in a state to ask many questions because you are trying to find yourself and understand the world. First you are judging life on what is happening to you RIGHT NOW. You act as if nothing better can EVER happen. You are not GOD. To make your life better, YOU MUST TAKE THE STEPS TO MAKE IT BETTER. Nothing can change until there is a change. Stop depending on others to make you happy. It does not always happened that way. I had a friend who went to college also. Got her degree but could not find a job in the area where she live that would support her college background. So she settle for less just as you are doing. She had a husband who smoked and drank, never support her in anything, in fact she was taking care of all his needs for years. One day she decided "No more" and looked for ways to improve her life. She is no longer thinking in a depressed way. When you are doing something with your life that makes you happy, THEN YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOUR SELF AND YOUR LIFE. But when you are stuck (yes i really mean stuck) in the sameo sameo everyday, for the next 365 days and onward, you will be depressed. You are not changing anything. I mean, really, Can you eat fried chicken for the rest of your life and not get bored with it. Everyone needs variety, and changes. We cannot live without it. And many have ended their lives because they could not continue on. But they don't make the effort to change it. Start thinking a little more positive and talk with your wife. Life is worth living.

Answer 2

Dude, I completely understand where you are coming from. I have struggled with similar thoughts for a long time.

Back Ground:

First off, I am a 28 year old dude so it seems like only yesterday that I was in your shoes. However, I have had the opportunity to experience everything that you touched on above. I graduated from college with two undergrad degrees; got a good job; went to grad school; graduated with a MBA; got married; wife nagged, cheated, left and divorced me; I make great money, but, to your point, I don't have a wife or kid to spend it on, (if that is what you mean by alone). I tell you all of that just so you will know where I am coming from.

Quick Hitters:

"we work so hard for what?" College is not hard; If and when you become an engineer, you might work some hours, but you will not work "hard." Hard work is shoveling concrete, loading trucks, hanging iron, etc.. My point is that if you play your cards right, you wont have to work hard.

"They say after i get out of college, i will have such a great future." I'm not sure what your idea of a great future is, but if you become an engineer you will be in a positive financial position. Money provides a person with the opportunity to make "decisions." Thus, if you have money, you have the ability to decide to do more of the things that you like, which will make you happy.

"I have never seen a single happy person out of college." I know you didn't mean this literally. However, every single person I know wishes they were back in college because it was the best time of our lives.

"they first say marriage is the reason to stay alive." I don't know who "they" are, but whoever "they" is wrong. Having a woman is a great thing, but, no matter what, it is unhealthy to base your happiness on your relationship with another person. Happiness has to come from within.

"What am i going to use the money for if im all alone?" What do you like to do? I love to lay around the lake in the sun so I spend a little money on boats; I like football so I have season tickets. You get the point!

Are there any other reasons. i cant think of any? I've babbled enough so I will stick with just 1 reason. COLLEGE! College is freaking awesome. From the parties and all the girls to the relationships that are binding for life, college can, and should be, the best 4 years of your life. Trust me dude, I had no freaking idea how cool college was gonna be till I got there.

STAY UP PLAYA!

Answer 3

Ah well, let's see, A car that you want and what some women like (they are called"Babe magnets") Corvette,Camaro and Firebirds( vintage of course) Motorcycle(s) Boat, a big boat, House with a view or where you want to live( city or country) Horses are fun and every other girl I met loved to ride. 98% of women are only fussy about 3-4 days out of the month and that comes in variety of stages from mild to Jekyll to Hyde. Sex is well different for some women. You might end up with a tiger in your tank or a once a week er( If she 's that way before marriage she probably will be after wards too. If you luck out and get a virgin and she is religious she will do as the Bible says and satisfy her man not only in bed but will also make you proud in the way she conducts herself at entertaining and being thrifty . You are suffering from the "too much work / school and not enough fun " syn drone Been there ,Done that!! Look, women are a dime a dozen so here's 50 cents> Now go out and find you one!!

Answer 4

First of all, I have a question. Are you thinking about suicide? This question would help me a lot in order to awnser you, but I'll try my best. I understand what you mean when you say that you cant see the reason to live. Sometimes I feel like that too. One reason to live is to enjoy it. See, when you think so negatively like you are now, saying that 'I have very little faith that a nagging woman who will quit having sex as soon as she gets the ring' and other things, then that just makes life worse. If you think more positively then you might have a better chance in life, and probably feel a lot more accomplished. So one day, if your bored/depressed/unhappy about something, then why spend life like that? Thats a point where you'll start thinking that. But if you tried more things, opened up more, and got out and experienced what life holds for you, then that's one great reason of life. To live life I mean. And I know everyones heard the saying 'live life at its greatest', so, do it! Just because you haven't met anybody who's happy and out of collage and married (which is not true, you just probably hadn't realized it), doesn't mean that there's no one out there that is happy, and it doesn't mean that you won't be happy either. So live life to its fullest, take chances, don't think so negatively, and try your best, and that is one serious thing to live for. When you look back on a whole bunch of memories, its only because you lived to experience them, and when you dream, you only dream because you live to sleep to dream, and when you accomplish something, and you feel so proud of yourself, its only because you lived to accomplish that thing. And another reason for life is for making others feel better. You could change someones life! You could possibly, seriously, make someone that feels like you, feeling like there is no point in life, you could change that, make them so happy, that they have something to look forward to when they wake up, or when they walk into a room. Or accomlpish something, or dream, or remember something that makes them happy. Sorry I wrote so much, but its true. I hope you open your eyes a bit wider and find out more about what you want to do with your life. ♥

p.s As for wives, you wouldn't marry someone unless you TRUELY loved them, right? So don't do it if you have a bad feeling about it... when you know that this person would never be like that, and you would love eachother forever, then get married. Then there will still be sex, and there won't be nagging. Just respect her, compliment her, but dont be a doormat, and she'll do the same in return.

Answer 5

well i can see that u are very pessimistic and that for u the glass is half empty... Of course i can look at the life like that but here is how i see it... I cant wait to go to college to learn more stuff and to be smarter not for others but form me... also the advantage of finishing a college is knowing that u have a so much knowledge in u that u feel special. And when u finsh don't think of marriage think of the job that u will attend and enjoy because u love doing something that u know and that u are good at and then VACATION, ah... yes few weeks of paradise...
well i could go on for ages but i think that this gives u a picture...
peace

Answer 6

There's alot of things, not all are great, because we have to indure heart aches too in order to be healthy.

Not just marriage. Hell, play the field. Until you don't think you want sex every night. lol

There is your family and friends, and new family and new friends to find great times with.

Children!! IF you think you don't like kids right now, once your a father or grandfather, or a proud uncle, kids are a real trip! They can make you laugh so hard it's hurtful!

If you find women to be nagging, why not try "men"? Now that would bring some real spice to your life!!

You sound depressed and maybe not a believer in God??? If God isn't a part of your life, maybe try bringinning him in.

Life is full of "experiences". Go out and find them, start them, love em or hate em, but enjoy.

Enjoy the beautiful colors this world of our offers......I mean, really, think about it and look..............isn't it amazing how many beautiful colors there are out there. Go out and seek wildlife. Animals are some of the coolest of all things to watch, study, touch, and have.

There's alot of reasons. I sure hope you find some!

Answer 7

I have been working and going to school for a long time. But I had just got married to a very wonderful man. I don't take his money or nag on him everyday..We work together and share our money as one income..We now have four kids together and it a wonderful feeling to have a family. There are so many things to live for...You have to find the good things and make your life happy! I'm guessing that your still very young!!!!

Answer 8

You're here for a reason. Everybody is here for a reason. Sometimes it's hard to find reasons to live for. I tried to kill myself twice cause I used to think like you, and I'm happy I didn't. I'm happy I didn't when I see my three month old son. He's the reason I looked for so much. I'm here for him. And he has made me know that I'm important. That there are so many beautiful things out there and that I should be grateful of being here today. Many have died when they have done everything to stay alive. You're lucky. Think of the things you have, don't think of the things you don't have. Many would have given or done anything to be where you are today. I regretted so much to be alive in the past, but not anymore cause I have understood that all of us are here for a reason, and that our lives have a purpose

Answer 9

Sometimes it is hard to see the purpose in life. Try volunteering somewhere. Give of yourself for awhile and see if it doesn't change your outlook on things.I know of a few people who said this really helped them
But first, you need to find out if these feelings are caused by clinical depression. It is a physical disability and not something one can "snap out of". Go to your doctor and tell them your symptoms. They may be able to help you with it.
I have dealt with several family members who suffer from it. It might be that the stress of school and possibly other factors are bringing you down. Don't do anything drastic until you speak with someone.

Answer 10

You have discovered the emptiness of life without God. You may not want to read this now, you might not have totally hit bottom yet. But one day you will run out of reasons for living and do what so many do when they lose all hope, commit suicide, become a drunk or drug addict or you will turn to the only thing that will fill that emptiness, Jesus Christ. Your life sounds a lot like mind was 25 years ago. I tried every thing to find happiness but only when turned my life over to Christ did I start to really live and understand what my purpose here was. I won't preach to you, but the answers are there if you really want them. Seek the truth and you will find it, but you really have to want it.