My bf likes me to message his testicles and one day i heard from a source that its bad to message them and lately when i've been doing it he would scream "owe!" and i've been doing it the same way i've been doing it for a year and its never hurt him. now its been hurting him in the same spot lately. whats up with this?
2006-11-09 13:05:41 · 12 answers · asked by cane_gurl 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Do you use AIM, Yahoo or Skype? :-) (Sorry, had to be a smart-aleck...)
Seriously... Testicles can take a surprising amount of pressure IF and ONLY if they are "warmed up" through a long period of soft, gentle stroking. There are basically three stages of testicular (yes, that's a real word) massage:
1 - Stroking the skin. During this stage, you want to slide the tips of your fingers along his skin, not making any indentations in the skin but simply caressing it. In therapeutic massage this is known as "effleurage" -- running your hands over the skin of the person you're massaging. (It feels great on the back, stomach, and thighs too -- well, pretty much anywhere.)
2 - Moving the testes inside the skin. After several minutes of gentle stroking and caressing, you can begin pressing a little harder, hard enough that your fingers are pressing into the skin and you can feel the testes themselves being displaced inside the skin. At this point it can be very pleasurable to stimulate the shaft of his penis as well, in much the same way -- moving the loose skin back and forth over the rigid tissue (the corpus spongiosum) underneath it.
3 - Rhythmic compression. As arousal proceeds toward climax, rhythmically compressing (that is, squeezing and releasing) the testes can increase the intensity of pleasure. The pressure you use needs to be monitored very closely, but as he gets closer to climax, the pressure can be surprisingly high.
Again, this is best done in combination with some kind of stimulation (manual or oral) to the penis. (It's possible to do this massage during intercourse, I suppose, but it seems to be too hard to reach for many couples.)
You can either alternate the two types of stimulation (if you are performing them orally), or you can combine them (using both hands, or using hands and mouth).
Another thing to try: If you bring him to climax this way, notice when he begins ejaculating, and then cup your hand firmly but gently around his testicles, pressing them lightly up against his body, while you continue stimulating his penis (however you were doing so). Continue to apply gentle pressure -- think of it almost as "support" -- to his testicles while you continue to stimulate his penis as he continues to climax. It is possible to prolong the sensation of orgasm for several minutes, with a cluster of individual orgasmic peaks, by doing this. (One word of caution: some men become very, very sensitive -- in a negative way -- on the very tip of their penis right at the moment of ejaculation, so be careful not to rub your hand, teeth or tongue across the opening as he begins ejaculating.)
As for hurting: there are a number of tendons, blood vessels, and other tender tissues that connect the testes to the body, and these can easily become bruised during a moment of passion. If this happens, the best thing to do is to temporarily stop that stimulation and only resume when he says he feels like it.
In addition, sometimes after a prolonged cluster orgasm like this, he may feel a soreness in his testicles -- like an overused muscle -- for minutes, even hours later. (I know that when I wake up sore, it was really really good the previous night.) But there appears to be no long-term damage to this practice; it's been an important part of my sex life for 35 years. Highly recommended, if he likes it -- but not all men do, so follow his lead for how much and when.
2006-11-09 19:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, testicles tend to be a bit of a tender spot on a guy thus certain activities can cause more discomfort than pleasure. And even an activity that causes great pleasure one time could cause discomfort the next if one varies the pressure applied.
So when playing with testicles always keep it gentle and try not to get too carried away. As well, feel free to lick or suck them; tha tis often quite a pleasure trip but again, it needs to be done gently. Oh, and if you don't like the hair, please shave him; shaving is a real turn on and a shaved scrotum is so smooth to feel you will really enjoy him more.
I'm going to add one more thought just in case he might have some problem developing in his testicles. Although every guy should perfomr regular self-exams on his testicles, a lot fo younger guys don't. However they are by far the best way to detect problems (not just cancer but others too) before thet becomes too serious. So check out the sites I've referenced below, discuss the methods with your bf and suggest that he start doing them. Also, when you are playign around down there, take time once a month to do your own exam on him just in case he got lazy or missed something.
Happy handling.
2006-11-10 10:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Massage Testicles
2016-11-12 07:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean "massage" I think. Messaging is like texting.
No, in general massaging the testicles is not bad for them. If you've been doing it the same way for a year, and now it hurts, then he has something going on in there that might need attention from a doctor.
But, since it hurts when you do that, stop doing that.
2006-11-09 13:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the only problem I see is that he is a lucky bastard.lol No, that should not cause any trauma but it could have maybe just rubbed a raw spot. Just like if you got a deap tissue massage today you would feel sore tomorrow. Maybe he is in need of a little break from the sack massages.
2006-11-09 13:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by JustNick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How on earth did your boyfriend get a Yahoo messaging account for his testicles?
2006-11-09 13:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I message testicles all the time, and they never ever write back. I'm getting upset. Massaging...that's different.
2006-11-09 16:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by trivial 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
noting you maybe dining a bit Tu Herder No
2006-11-09 13:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by rafael r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to fondle them gently & lick & kiss them softly. this is what men will respond to .
Gentle sucking the balls is OK but go easy !!! soft stroking makes men happy.
2006-11-09 18:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by blackbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're doing it too hard. Massage softer and while stroking and he will love you forever.
2006-11-09 13:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋