when is it too young to have a baby?

Question

i know i am probly too young, but every so often i get this incomplete feeling if i dont have a baby in my arms to care for. sometimes i even cry knowing that if i had one now my family would be mad at me and i feel so incomplete. like a piece of me is missing. sometimes i even have a few pregnancie symptoms even though im not pregnant.... i dont know what to do to get these feeling to go away if anything temporalily. has any one else expirenced this???

i babysit all too often actualy. i live my sister and i take care of her two kids all the time day in and day out while everyone else is off doing their own thing i hate that she cant care for her own kids and i wish i could.

im 16 years old

Answer 1

get married so you can start having kids. good luck

Answer 2

It is too young to have a baby when:

YOU have no education and have not finished even High School Yet ... Because it is with an Education that you can obtain better employment to be able to AFFORD to provide the care and things that your child will need as they grow up

YOU have no steady employment that has health care (medical, dental, hospitalization, etc) benefits in your own right ... Because it is VERY expensive to obtain pre-natal care, and the cost of the delivery is JUST the beginning -- then there is the medical care of the infant until they become adults -- and that can run into hundreds of thousands of dollars of cost.

YOU have no space you can call your own -- that YOU pay for out of your earnings, you have furnished, you pay all the utilities, and you know that you will be able to meet all your bills and have some left over for savings ... Because when you know the challenges and RESPONSIBILITIES of being an adult (and that means living on your own and paying all your own bills and providing for your family), then, and only then, can you make a RESPONSIBLE choice for having a baby of your own.

When you have a Stable Relationship -- one that is based on mutual love and trust -- and that means that the male (father) is going to stay with you to HELP raise the child -- and not just be a booty call and then run away when you say "I'm Pregnant and YOU ARE the Father ..."

When you can deal with all the problems of caring for an infant no matter what -- the 24/7 caregiving is very tough indeed -- and to have your infant crying for hours on end, to know that there is not much you can do except take them to the MD to get meds and they scream in discomfort from one of the viruses that are going on, when they have to have surgery because they were born with some genetic disability or condition, when you can PROVIDE the comfort and things necessary that will BE that full-Time Care (and STILL be able to hold down that Employment that Puts the Food on YOUR table, the Roof over your own head, and the Clothes on you and your family -- then you can take on the responsibility for having a child.

SO ...

MY recommendation is that you take a step back, and REALIZE --

SLOW DOWN, take it easy -- and remember -- it is a VERY HEAVY Responsibility to be a MOTHER to a child ... one that does not mean an hour or two and the babysitter goes home and forgets about it. It is 24/7 for a LIFETIME -- and you will take a LOT of abuse when that infant becomes a teenager -- because ... well, they will be trying to become Responsible Adults, then you need to step back and let them become Adults and deal with the Consequences of ADULT decisions ... and

HAVING A BABY IS an ADULT DECISION with SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES!

Answer 3

At 16 you are definitely too young. I'm a mother of 3 so please take my advise. Children are WONDERFUL!!! And to answer your question.... Yes, I had similar feelings like you when I was your age. Some of us are meant to be mama's and our bodies definitely tell us so. We just have to be smart enough to know when the right time is. I really wanted a child to love when I was younger and thank goodness I waited... I ended up having a terrific time in my early 20's and I know that my life would have been drastically different if I'd had a child before then. The wait was worth it. Sometimes the anticipation can be a wonderful experience. Try babysitting every weekend... the whole weekend. Do that several times in a row and you'll get just a little taste of what it will be like to be a mother. I have NO doubts that you'll make a great mama some day... Just promise us that you'll wait until the time is right. Have a wonderful night and may God bless you and your family.

Answer 4

my goodness we'll in my opinion too young is not caculated all in age but maturity as well. I can tell you that having a baby too young you will regret it latter. you will never regret the child itself but the lost of youth. also what kind of life can you give a child if you do not have a steady job and husband. Do you really want to raise this child on your own. I tell you what if you think you do then you must not want to see it because you will be working all the time just to try and support it and if you can't social services will come and take it away. Kids are expensive, many many doctor visits, dentist visits, clothes, school lunches, school trips, school supplies, food, do you know formula can cost 100.00 a month diapers are around 100.00 a month I pay 45.00 a month for school lunches, I have dished out 4,000 in dentist bills .And if you do not have a husband lets throw in 100.00 a week in child care. So you have a lot to consider. Sounds to me like you are not getting enough attenction from your parents. Try getting into a hobbie or group that will give you something to do and feel you are a part of somthing. You have a long time to have kids.

Answer 5

Speaking as someone who had a child at 17 I would say until you are at least 18 and married. But the younger you are the harder it is. It is best to have a stable career first to support your baby. At 16 I did love the idea of a baby. But you have to be ready to take care of it. What if the child has a problem? Would you be able to handle it if it was autistic or hearing impaired or had some other problem?You become responsible for a helpless life. I would say now is not the time for you. You didn't even spell PREGNANCY correct. I don't know how old you are but you are speaking from and immature viewpoint. Don't ruin your life you need to wait.

Answer 6

You seem to need therapy. You seem to think everything will come up roses if you suddenly have a baby. Having a baby isn't like having a dog.

There was a recent poll given to women and they answered that a big part of having a baby was the attention they received through the whole process.

You're probably way too young to have children right now so start thinking about your life and how you can become a complete person on your own before you decide to bring another person into this world.

Answer 7

I got pregnant accidently when I was 16 and the baby was born when I was 17.
My parents weren't happy at all to start with but they got yous to it and couldn'e be more proud grandparents these days.
All I can say is make sure you are with someone that you KNOW you will be with forever that loves and cares for you with all his heart.
Remember a baby grows up and it is a responsibility for life and you cant give it away when your tired.
Really think about it, make a list of ALL the downfalls, see if you can talk yourself out of it, if you cant then that's that but if you can? Then maybe stick to babysitting until you are more ready and have the money saved.
Good luck and I hope you make the right decisions!

Answer 8

Lots of people have children for that reason. Keep in mind that it is very hard work, and if you are asking this question, you are probably too young. Besides, you would be having a baby for the wrong reasons. Do you get the urge to hold a teenager in your arms? The child will be a baby for a little over a year but a teenager for 10 years. Think about that.

Answer 9

No one can ever say when the right time is to have a baby. But children are a HUGE financial, emotional and very demanding responsibility. I will say I had my first child when I was 20 and I felt I was way too young. I didn't feel really ready until I was 27. But everyone is different. When you are financially secure and can take care of yourself and still have money left over and the father is VERY involved then you will be ready!!!!!

Answer 10

I think your too young when you cant properly take care of the baby. If you cant hold a steady job and support the baby and rely on family to take care of the baby because you cant afford too or are just too immature to have a responsibility ( ya know like going out at night all the time with friends and what not). But then again babies shouldn't be having babies.... at least have a carrier and a steady relationship before you bring a baby into this world...

Answer 11

Look, if you think you can afford with time energy and money to have a kid, then do. I had a kid at 17 and am 19 with another one. I didnt have my priotrities straight then, but being a young mom, i do now. I married, and settled down. I didnt finish school, and that was the biggest thing i wish i could change. Just rememebr a kid opens the door to mother hood and the whole mom's community, but it also shuts the door to youth, being able to do whatever whenever and not give a damn. It is really something you need to be sure you are truly mature to handle. Good luck and I hope i helped.