Choosing between the love of your life (Who in love with you too) but is not mature enough the handle responsibilities, and the person you have "some" feelings for, but has a lot of things you look for in a person for a serious relationship.
2006-11-09 12:38:34 · 13 answers · asked by Kaiya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, neither. I would go with the one I love and who loves me too who also happens to have what it takes to make a serious relationship work. But that's just me. I advice u to stay true to yourself and follow your heart.
2006-11-09 12:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could easily fall out of love with a person that cannot handle responsibilities. maturely. The smallest things can build into something big. I'm dealing with that same issue now too. I love this guy but he seems immature on issues we have in the relationship but I care somewhat for another who is very responsible and more mature. I feel like I'm falling out of love with this guy sometime b/c he handles things (issues) like a kid. I may face a tough decision soon. Just do what you think is best for you
2006-11-09 12:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by ms_kiki00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kaiya, you are very wise! This question puts you way up there above those who just muddle through relationships. I would say you should leave the child and go for the adult. Because this is what you are going to do anyway, but only after 5 horrible years of marriage. Then Mr. Right will have been taken by Mrs. Right the 2nd. However, don't go for marriage until you have fallen in love with the adult. You also need to forget the child. I know this is rough. But, you don't need to be fantasizing about him while married to someone else. Fantasies always look better, because they don't exist!
2006-11-09 12:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You leave both of them in the dust and look for someone who is responsible and in love with you. It ain't that hard.
You won't change the irresponsible one and may not grow to love the responsible one.
I can tell you from experience, you can't change anybody. They are what they are. Believe them when they show you the truth. Love flies all the way out the window when the rent isn't paid, the electricity is shut off and you dont have enough money to eat. Love is fine, but you can't eat it, live in it, wear it or sleep in it.
Good luck
2006-11-09 14:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 13:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its the so called love of ur life then u grow with them n help them to become responsible and a better person..or u can try to create feelings for the other person and then when it dont work out ..see if the true love will take u back...get my point
2006-11-09 12:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The love of your life doesn't necessarily have to love you back, you love him or her with every single piece of you but that person might not love you. The right one, he loves you and he's everything you have wanted to find on a man but maybe you don't love him back. Choose the right one, cause he's the right one for you. The love of your life, you just love him and it won't go farther than that
2006-11-09 12:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go for the one that has what I am looking for. People marry for Love exclusively, and then get divorced in many cases. Goals and habits, views on life have to be compatible for a lasting relationship.
2006-11-09 12:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by sheba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the one who is in love with you is too irresponsible then obviously he isn't the love of your life. If you have just "some" feelings for someone then he isn't "the right one". I think you need to hold off making any kind of choices until you can figure out just what it is you want yourself.
2006-11-09 12:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends. But above all, follow your heart. If he loves you too then you should be with him. Love is about working with your love to help them be a better person.
2006-11-09 13:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by Torturedsoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋