I am just wondering if guys really do want to sow their wild oats and if this is true, how do they stay with one woman, how do they go against their supposed nature to want to have sex with every woman they see? I mean i know all men arent like this, but i guess my question is, would men cheat if they could not get caught-my fiance says he would never cheat even if he never got caught, and i belive him, at least i want to, but when he openly talks about wanting to be with all these women, or have sex with that person, looks at lots of porn, uses playboy magazines in front of me, and says other women are so hot right when i am there, not to mention flirting with my best friend and his best friends girlfriend, how do i make myself trust him--i mean i apparently trust him, we are engaged, but sometimes i worry, because ladies love him and he kisses butt and turns on the charm and when ladies come onto him in front of me, he acts like he does not know why? Any answers are appreciated!
2006-11-09 12:33:38 · 12 answers · asked by SuzyBelle04 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A man can stay with one woman if he CHOOSES to do so. Men are no animals. They are humans, and humans are rational. Meaning to say, men can have control over their urges. It is natural to be attracted to other women (it is unrealistic for them not to fancy another woman again), but it is THEIR CHOICE to stay with the one they committed themselves to.
In this case, I think your fiance acts like an animal, because he lets his urges control him.
2006-11-09 12:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is strictly my opinion and from my own experience, most people who claim to want to sow their wild oats whether it be a man or a woman is somebody who didn't live life coming up from adolescence to their fullest capabilities and feel some where down the line they were shorted or cheated out of something in life, and when they make this decision to start sowing after a serious relationship has already been started and feelings should be considered they are going to cop a selfish attitude and someone is going to get hurt, once someone goes into the sow the Oates mode they are not going to think about how their actions will affect someone else, all they're concerned with is satisfying their own needs at that time, I wouldn't trust anybody during a period like this not even myself, been there and done that! Hope you can understand and relate to my response, good luck and God Bless
2006-11-09 12:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I'm sort of like your boyfriend is. A lot of us fellows are that way. And the rest of us are either hermits or perverts or wusses! You probably want a wuss. That's a fellow who doesn't attract women normally, and if by some miracle he finds himself in a relationship with a, gosh wow, real woman, he knows that he'd better never offend her by looking at other women because lightning seldom strikes twice in the same place.
2006-11-09 12:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. Plain and simple.
If he is so interested in you, he wouldn't be shoulder surfing looking for the next girl he can attract, get hot for, or bed -- if she'd be willing to spread her legs for him.
Even if he does this cause he likes to make you jealous, it gets old REAL quick. Why would you want to subject yourself to a relationship where the basic foundation of trust is constantly being challenged while he gets off looking at other beautiful women and acting disrespectful to you right in front of your face?
Girl wake up and smell the coffee. He's a damn immature dog and you are about to subject yourself to some real pain if you marry him.
2006-11-09 12:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by HappyBunny 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you deft? You let him disrespect you and you question your own sanity. You aren't ready to be married....do you even have a ring and a date...I dought it because your "finace" doesn't have to make a committment to keep you. He's full of it, he's having sex in his mind with women all around you and you CHOOSE to ignore it because you're so desperate for love.....you settle for bad love because bad love is better than no love and you're afraid you'll be alone and no one will love you. Have some self respect. Stop giving away the cookies when he doesn't want the cookie jar. Find someone else who will respect you and love you and swim through shark infested waters to keep you. OPEN YOUR EYES and keep you legs together.
2006-11-09 12:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, sounds like a former President. If you want a husband who says he's faithful but plays around and doesn't even consider it playing around, then go ahead and marry him.
If he wasn't talking about being with the other women and sexual flirthing, I could still believe him. There are men who are very social with others, but know where their bed is. But if he's talking with YOU about other women and doesn't see the problem, then I'd be worried for the future.
2006-11-09 12:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are not trustworthy i being a man can say this with pride
Men will not stay with only 1 woman
Women who think their man has not cheated on them are fooling only themselves
Men can be loyal but not faithfull
the most powerful and oldest instinct is the instict to mate and produce offspring
Thanks to trojan and Durex the offspring can be removed from the equation
There is no such thing as a Faithfull man there never will be
when the opportunity presents itself instinct will prevail over emotion
Example you are on a trip of some sort your mans best friends takes your man out for a drink they have a couple and a beautiful woman asks your man to dance
He will decline respectfully thinking of you
Woman becomes more persistient
mans instinct begins to win over emotion man dances
Mans instinct recognises lustfull feelings from woman and sexual
arousal begins
man wakes up next morning with beautiful woman wrapped around him
then emotion floods back and guilt ensues
this is the way it happens
Instinct allways wins
2006-11-09 12:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by kiingbee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he flirts with women in front of you, and talks about women in front of you, that's not good. I'm sure it's not what you want to hear, but it sounds like he is not the right person for you. If he was committed to you, then he would respect you more, regardless of what his libido was. Sit down with him and have a talk and ask him sincerely why he does these things if he is supposedly committed to you.
2006-11-09 12:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suzy belle, You have a problem child there! If you are his one true love then why does he need porn? Why does he flirt? How can he look at Playboy and still stay pure to you in his mind? I have to tell you, he sounds allot like my brother. He's a pastor in Calif. and thinks himself a real ladies man, even though he is married. He sounds just like you future divorce partner. Just use the old common sense, If it walks like a dog and barks like a dog, .....It must be a dog!
2006-11-09 12:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf sounds like my ex bf and yes I said ex bf and that is what you need to do too, is be an ex to him, he IS going to cheat on you. As a matter of fact he already has been cheating on you.
2006-11-09 12:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋