My husband, an attractive (or would be!) man of 27, is grossing me out. He works in a factory and gets very dirty. He will go days without showering and I can count how many times he brushes his teeth a year on one hand. I hate kissing him. I tell him he stinks. I tell him to change out of his work clothes when he gets home. I ask him to brush his teeth. He just gets mad at me when I ask. Ive tried being nice about it and Ive tried nagging him about it. His hair is sticking up all over the place bc he hasnt had it cut in a long long time. He has gained a lot of weight but wears clothes too tight. He is really letting himself go. It is to the point where I am embarassed to be with him in public or with friends. What could be going on and how can I fix it?
2006-11-09 12:29:03 · 21 answers · asked by venezia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look..get in the shower with him..wash him..let him wash you. Have a good time. Witholding things is the wrong thing to do to a man and it can lead to resentment, hate and perhaps the beginning of the end of your marriage. Take it from a married man.
2006-11-09 12:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by rydaldude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's gross. Was he like that before you married him? If so, I hate to say it, but you knew what you were getting into, and shouldn't have expected him to change just because you married him. However, if this started to happen after marriage, then I think he is letting himself go because he knows that he already "has you" and feels that he no longer has to prove himself. You need to talk to him, and tell him that if he won't be cleaner and practice better hygiene for you, then at least do it for himself. He should be embaressed not showering or brushing his teeth. If he has clean and running water, then there is no excuse for that. He also might be depressed or dealing with some psychological issues...so maybe counseling would help. Whatever the case, I hope the two of you get it sorted out, and I wish you all the best!
2006-11-09 12:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you have a depressed husband. You need to give him tough love and tell him you either shower and fix yourself up or I am finding someone who does. How can you feel romantic when the man you love stinks. There is nothing sexy about that whatsoever.
2006-11-09 17:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a good looking man does this all of a sudden then you can bet something is very wrong. He needs to see a doctor or therapist. If he doesn't go, then go by yourself so that you can learn how to help him on your own. No person does something like that for NO reason. It could be a chemical imbalance, depression or any number of things all of which need further investigation. Good Luck!
2006-11-09 12:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby sounds like he has some mental health issues. The change can be gradual so he doesn't notice but we eventually do. How to get him evaluated if he has no interest in changing is tricky. You could try a doctor, but I suspect getting him to one is impossible. Does he have friends or other family that could intervene? You may have consult a mental health person on this to see what is available.
2006-11-09 12:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROSS!!!! Has he always been like that? The teeth thing...sorry I WOULDNT KISS HIM EVER...yuck. Tell him dont ask himmm....enough is enough...that's not acceptable...maybe he needs to see a ;doctor? Tell him your true feelings and how you want and used to feel proud to be with him now...you dont want to be seen with him... If he really doesnt care..then you have a rough road ahead and lots of thinking to do...but what he is doing isnt normal... is he depressed? He must smell....sorry but I couldnt told back..he would have to change or I would leave..
2006-11-09 12:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eeewwww yucko. Move into the spare bedroom, or if there isn't one, use a closet. Lock it. Tell him he can have you back, when he finds out what soap, water, toothpaste and a tooth brush are for.... god, sweetie, was he like this when you married him? He may be mentally ill, ever thought of that..... This ain't normal....at least not with the people I hang around with....
2006-11-09 12:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eww...
Tell him that you will not be seen in public with him unless he takes a shower and cleans up.
Or...you can start being a slob like he is being and let him know how it feels!
2006-11-09 12:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youn can't fix your husband. Tell him that he has changed since you married him and you're not going to accept it. Tell him to make changes in his life or you're leaving him. It comes down to what he thinks about himself and how much he loves and respects you.
2006-11-09 12:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a shower with him or send him to Maury Povich for a makeover!
2006-11-09 13:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋