Do you tend to doubt yourself and accept the criticism even when it may not be due. Or do you defend yourself regardless of the validity of the criticism?
2006-11-09 11:51:24 · 7 answers · asked by Dave..... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me it depends on the delivery of the criticism and who is delivering it. If it's just someone (say an acquaintance...or even a total stranger for that matter) who starts criticizing me for no apparent reason, even though it may not be true, I let the comments in one ear, out the other because I already know it's not true and they are certainly entitled to their opinion.
If it's a loved one like my husband or family members who are important to me, I get defensive even though it may not be true because I am more emotionally invested in these people and their opinions of me matters. After I have cooled down, I examine why they said the things they said and u know what? Sometimes they are right.
2006-11-09 12:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Criticism is not an easy pill for anyone to swallow, but if it is given to me with respect and a sincere desire to help me improve myself (which rarely is the case these days, from anyone) then I can accept it, and then decide whether I feel the criticism is valid, and whether I want to make the changes.
2006-11-09 11:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I cope pretty well... I tend to get defensive at first, but I can usually acess the validity fairly quickly, and either ignore it, argue, or agree and take note.
2006-11-09 11:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction is to be defensive.
After I've had some time to think about the what was said, I try to look at it from the other persons perspective. If they are right, I tell them that they are right. If I feel that they are wrong, I tell them so and that I'm not going to change that behavior.
2006-11-09 11:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the way in which it is presented. If it is done with tack and in an atmosphere of love, then I can listen and make adjustments in my life. If it is off-the-cuff and derogatory then no matter if it is warranted or not I usually respond by being defensive.
2006-11-09 11:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by godsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your self confidence. The more self confident you are, more criticism you can bear. If you are unsure of yourself, then criticism will make you defensive, upset and bitter.
2006-11-09 12:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by thunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok now can we get on with something else? appreciate it.
2006-11-09 11:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋