Im a pretty shy and quiet person. Its been about four years since my last serious (5 years) relationship. I don't know how to flirt, I don't drink (so there's no point to going to a bar) and I don't look like your typical pretty gay boy. It doesn't seem like I'll ever meet anybody. Am I screwed?
2006-11-09 11:46:15 · 10 answers · asked by bakura1980 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Okay I understand the going to someplace other than a bar thing but I've tried that. Nothing ever happens. Im not the type to go up to someone and start having conversations. I get too nervous and words just come out all jumbled up. Im not exaggerating or anything but people ALWAYS want to seem to want to talk to my friends but never me...
2006-11-09 11:56:34 · update #1
Apparently not.
2006-11-09 11:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Hell no...you are what you are..it is what you do with what you have that makes a difference. The easiest way to meet people these days is on the internet...IF you want a quick lay, then advertise. IF you are looking for a relationship, then advertise for one and be VERY TRUTHFUL in your ad. Trust me, the world is filled with lonely people, and not all of them are Adonises. Shy is a condition that is curable...not terminal! Practice going up to people and meeting them...learn to be aggressive, everyone can do it, it just takes practice. A wallflower is likely to remain on the wall, alone...no one sees them or meets them. And the last time I looked, NO ONE lines up at ANYONES door to meet them, no matter what the person looks like!
If you run an ad, use pics....good ones and bad ones. The greatest ad I have read lately went something like this:
1)This is How I see myself (it was a glamor shot, perfect lighting, black and white, a very good pic...so go have one taken)
2) This is how my Dog sees me (a funny pic, shot from the floor, up to a face that was looking down at the camera...just plain old funny
3) This is how my neighbors see me in the morning (bathrobe, looking unshaved, messy hair, stooping to pick up a paper in the driveway
4) and this is how my friends see me (a very good snap shot showing a great smile and personality, but not a particularly pretty person.)
I was intrigued by the cleverness of the person doing the ad. I had a very good idea what they looked like, how they thought...I would have met them had I been single...no surprises, and a seemingly fun guy to be with.
Work on your ad to bring out yourself, no surprises to the others...you will have someone respond that will be meaningful.
Good luck, and get out an meet people...practice until that shyness goes away. Good luck to ya
2006-11-09 21:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be concerned about your looks cause everyone has a different type. Type in gay (name of the nearest city) and see if there are any social groups to join. Barnes & Nobels are notorious as a gay hangout. You can always sit at the bar and drink a soda and/or eat. You don't have to drink alcohol. Browse the online sites like tangowire or gay.com or planet out. Good luck in your search.
2006-11-09 19:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest trying to overcome your shyness so you can make some gay friends, and then have your friends introduce you to their friends. If there is any kind of gay organization in your area, you could join that. You can go to a gay bar and have non-alcoholic drinks. There are online chat rooms (there are some fakers, but not all people are). You're only screwed if you don't do something to meet new people.
2006-11-09 20:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No hun your not screwed. If you like to read, hang out at some book stores, like Barnes and Noble, if you like to cook, try taking some cooking classes. Go places and do things you like to do and you can meet your special someone. Have you thought about posting an ad on line or in your local newspaper? That way you can chat with someone before you actually meet. Good Luck and remember, Love is Just around the corner. Kg
2006-11-09 19:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by kgreives 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you're creating a self-defeating prophecy. just relax, and let things happen naturally. if there's a gay group try joining , get a hobby, when you quit looking you're more likely to meet someone. good luck!
2006-11-10 02:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pretty gay boys are hot. turn into one. and how could you be screwed if your gay. i love gay people, theyre so nice and i feel bad for them cuz lots of people make fun of them.
2006-11-09 19:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by shoowap 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use one of the social network sights to find guys who aren't looking for "pretty boys"....there's someone for everyone.
2006-11-09 19:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No,You should ask yourself that.I don't think your screwed.
There is lots of time for you to meet other people,besides
it is way better to be single.
2006-11-09 19:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you won't be anytime soon !
2006-11-09 19:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋