My fiance doesn't perform oral on me but my ex is dying to do it. is it wrong?

Question

to let him? I miss it so much. yes I have asked my fiance several times to do it but he hasn't. yes i'm clean. help

Thank you to all. Yes, I do give him oral, I love to pleasure him any way he likes. I haven't cheated on him but I seriously feel like oral is very important and I can't understand why he won't now when he used to. 69 and all, we did it, now he doesn't. And yes, I've discussed it with him and he said he would but we had sex last night & he didn't. I just miss oral - that's all!

Answer 1

go for it. if he cared about ur need he would do this. i am in the same situation. my g/f gave me oral in the beginning, until i committed to her and said i love u, then she said we needed to base our relationship on love and not sex and the woman who i met in the beginning is not who she really is. so now i don't get any oral at all. my ex wife says she will anytime i want to and quite honestly after 6 months of not getting it i am just about willing to let her

Answer 2

Yes it's wrong. It's just oral sex. Yeah it's wonderful, I agree, but if you actually are considering cheating on your fiance just because he won't do it and you "miss it," you should not be his fiance. Cut him a break and tell him the truth; let him decide whether or not he wants to remain in a relationship with you. You owe it to him to be honest. If you really love him actually, you should just end it. You may think my reaction is overdramatic, but I'd beg to differ. If you're willing to compromise this huge, deep commitment for something as petty as oral sex, then you have no reason to be engaged to him. Cheating invalidates all the love and trust that you two have built. Good luck.

Answer 3

You should have kept the conversation going when he ignored you question. You need to find out what has changed for him. By the way sex daily and good. Don't want to bust your bubble. Sex should be Great with your fiance. If not there is more wrong than just oral.

Answer 4

The only reason your ex want to do it is because he is jealous you are getting married and doesn't want to see you happy. If you let him, and you get caught, you will lose your fiance, and then your ex will probably dip back out of your life too.
But if oral sex is that important to you, you shouldn't plan to spend the rest of your life with someone who wont preform... maybe suggesst 69 with your fiance, then he will be getting some pleasure in return.

Answer 5

First off, don't go to your ex!!!!! You need to decide what you miss. Do you miss your ex or the oral sex? I think it is the oral sex..........which is so wonderful..........okay, sorry, having a moment. I miss my man.........okay.............You and your finance need to talk. You need to tell him that you need to be orally stimulated or you're just not getting what you need. In your marriage, both parties deserve to be satisfied sexually. If he isn' t pleasing you then you got two options: Tell him how you feel if he still doesn't then he's just NOT into pleasing his woman. The other is buy you a toy that stimulates orally. I heard the bullet works wonders. Bottom line, talk about this BEFORE you walk down that aisle and remember.......what he does or doesn't do now, he will or won't do when you are married. Are you really ready for that?

Answer 6

Has your FINANCE given you any reasons as to why?? He won;t perform oral sex on you?? Have the two of you really talked about this?? Because it's hard to see that he's you're FIANCE and now you've got this problem all of the sudden?? NO Way should you let your ex do it to you!! What's wrong with you?? Or are you really tryin to find a reason to break off the engagement??

Answer 7

Have you ever had a discussion with your fiance, and told him, that you like to do that? Some man don't go down. and if you think that is important to you, and he won't do it, well may be you should not marry him, and you can have all the oral, you want with your ex.

Answer 8

You're extremely shallow. Do your fiance a favor and break the engagement. If you want oral and your fiance won't give it, then I guess that's the most important thing in the world to you so by all means, screw your fiance and go for the oral.

Answer 9

yes it is very wrong to do it while your still engaged to be married. It would be different if you were'nt with him but you are. If you miss it that much then go back to your ex, but dont be dissapointed that you wont be getting married. If you are in love with your fiancee then that is all that should matter and it wont be that big a deal. You can check the sex stores, the have things that you can put over yourself while hes doing it if hes paranoid for some reason. As far as I know they dont feel that much different. Good Luck!

Answer 10

YES IN EVERY WHICH WAY OR FORM!!!! You need to talk to your fiance about it. It's not right to let someone else do it just because your fiance won't. If you're going to let your ex do it then why keep the fiance? You seriously need to talk to him before you get married. What are you going to do after you're married and one night you wake up and WANT IT! Run to your ex's house to get it and come back? It's ridiculous - you guys seriously need to talk - good luck!

Answer 11

You have a big problem, this is the man you plan to marry. If he won't do what you want now, it won't happen in your marriage.
So you have a couple of choices, either do with out him going down on you, or cheat and have your ex do it for you. Either way, isn't the best way to live.
I hate to say it, but if it's that important to you now, it's best that you put of your marriage plans.
Better to cut it off cleanly now, than wait, till you are so miseable that you can't stand him any more.