We are not married yet can someone tell me why?

Question

My boyfriend and I have known each other four 12 years. We have been a couple for 2 years. We were going to be married on June 4, 2005. But we never did it. We have a beautiful daughter together who is 9 months old. He says that I am his wife to everyone, and that we are soul mates and all. But why have we not gone to get the real title?? I think he is scared to make it offical. What do you think?

Answer 1

Why buy a cow when you can get the milk for free.

Answer 2

where were you on June 4, 2005? if you were not at the church waiting on your husband to-be to arrive for your wedding together you can't say it was him, the correct saying should be "I think we are to scared to make it official" most of the time young partners like the both of you the way it is and going to the next steep might just bring what you both have took so long to build up down to the ground, and it's your way of coping with the disappointment.

look at what you have in your live and tell the world that you want more knowing that your not sure if you do want your saying. living as husband and wife might not be the right thing to do, weigh out the diffreance and make up your own mind and set a date, buy your dress(you should aready have it from June 4, 2005) and wake up early that day and be on your way, if he doesn't show up are you ready to end this relationship as all the other here are telling you to?

I would take a long slow look at what you do have in your lifeand standing infront of you and think of how much better you will be once you walk away from all that. I sure hope you set down with the man that you so much want to marry and tell him that "this is what I want and need to complete our family", set that date together and work out the small problems as you both incounter them and if you both need to push the date back a few months then do so knowing that your still working twards that date together.

Answer 3

Some people experience a change in the relationship almost instantly after being hitched. Maybe he has heard of these experiences. As your soul mate he is your best friend; and communication is the most important aspect of the relationship. So don't be afraid to ask him, and get his feelings deep down on the whole issue. Maybe he thinks that you guys need more time, or maybe he has other reasons. Explain to him why it is so important to you. Laying all the cards out on the table will help both of you bond and understand each other better. You should just Ask him! Good Luck!

Answer 4

Everyone's experience is different on the marriage thing. How badly do YOU want to get married, and how much have you pushed the issue with him? If you wanted badly to get married and he knows this, then he obviously has aversion to the legal committment phase of your relationship. On the other hand, if you have been kind of blase' about getting married yourself, you can't blame him for being ho-hum about it to. I have been living with my man since 2001, no kids, but we both know that anytime I am ready to do the deed, he will be ready to go with me. So far, I have just been too cheap to tie the knot, since a good throw-down will cost some dinero.

Basically, sit down and talk about the issue. If it becomes a touchy subject, get some counseling.

Answer 5

Cars are titled, not people (unless you're a Duchess).

He says that you are his wife to everyone. But, for a common law marriage to exist, you have to be husband and wife in each others minds also (not just to others).

Apparently, since you decalre that you're not married, you are not in a common law marriage, despite what your boyfriend seems to be implying.

But, to answer your question: you're not married because your boyfriend already has gotten what he wants and is getting what he wants. That's it.

Now, if you have a problem living with him without being married, then why are you? THAT'S the question.

Answer 6

That is exactly what I was thinking! You are lucky to have him at all of course so you don't want to scare him off. But suggest to him a date that you think would be good for the occasion. But first think of any engagements, job breaks or vacation. Also look for signs to makes sure he isn't 'playing around'. I am not saying hes that type or anything but not knowing him I just have to say that. I hope that helps

Answer 7

I have been together with the same guy for 6 years and we are still not married. We talk about it, and talk.. and it never seems to happen. I think maybe our men are both too scared of commitment. Even though they have been commited to us for so many years. God knows how to solve that one!

Answer 8

I think that u should confront him. That way u can have a conversation and actually ask him why havent u guys gotten married. You dont want ur baby to grow up and then u guys still not married. And then you will have to make some lame excuse saying we had u to show our appreciation thats why we had u.

Answer 9

I don't think you can place all of the blame on him. If it was important enough to you that you be married, you would have taken a stand a long time ago. Apparently, you are both willing to live with the present situation. There's nothing wrong with that.

Answer 10

You need to talk to him about this and set a date and send out invitations and everything to make it official. Since he isnt going to do it, you need to plan everything and invite everyone! That way it will be official and he will have to go through it. If he already tells everyone your his wife then he should marry you!!

Answer 11

Things will change and you will split up. That is what is wrong. Have saw that many times in cases like yours. Both of you not intentional will start to do things different and start going down hill.