OK, a customer where I work asked me out for a drink. I'm not really attracted to him - I mean, there's nothing wrong with him, but nothing that's really pushing any of my buttons either, and he came across as pretty boring to talk to, and I intended to tactfully turn him down, but I ended up saying yes.
WHY DID I DO THAT?
I'm not desperate, and I never used to have problems turning people down, but I seem to have lost some self-confidence somewhere along the way.
I didn't get his number, so I can't ring to cancel, and I'd NEVER stand anyone up because that's nasty, so I'm stuck with meeting him tomorrow evening, and I can't help thinking it's going to be really dull, and quite awkward if we don't hit it off.
There's nothing I can do about it now, but does anyone have any idea why I couldn't just politely say no?
Have you ever done the same thing?
2006-11-09 10:59:22 · 12 answers · asked by JBoy Wonder 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I went on dates feeling like you do and to my surprise wound up falling hard????????????????? What is the problem here? You are getting out of the house! Make the most of it. If you go tomorrow thinking you won't have a good time, for sure you won't. Why not go into this looking at it as having a night out and making the best of it. How do YOU know you won't have a good time? You might just be surprised. Also consider this.......when you are out there, you might just run into your real soulmate. They can turn up in any place at any time, and when you least expect it.
2006-11-09 12:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've done it. I think I'm just a bit too polite sometimes. It's okay to go on a bad date though. You get free food/drink, you might learn something new, and it's over in a few hours anyway. Try to find that one part of him that you have something in common with even if it takes some prodding, or just ask him about his past or something. I don't know why you said yes, but try to keep it friendly since you might be seeing this guy at work and you don't want that to be awkward.
2006-11-09 19:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by cata 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although I've never done that, I think it's either because:
- you actually have feelings for him inside
- you don't have anyone else to go out with
- somebody told you some insults and lowered your self-esteem
- just meet him tomorrow evening...if things are too dull, you can always turn him down
2006-11-09 19:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by KatH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm lesbian. Been there. Don't know why. But do the right thing. Go, but relax. Let it go. Just be completely at ease. This is no big deal. You will have more fun even if it turns out that you two have nothing in common. There could be worse things in your life than that.
2006-11-09 19:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think most of us have been there, i think that you scensed he liked you more then you liked him and just dident want to hurt his feelings,an admirable thing for him lol not so good for you, but hey everything happens for a reason maybe just maybe things will work out if not dont forget his number this time lol bye and good luck... Not many lesbians in las vegas i would almost take a bad date lmao het i said almost lol
2006-11-10 00:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by deb s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well first, it's hardly THAT bit a deal unless you're worried about your reputation.
Why? Since you're not desperate, maybe part of you spotted something the rest of you doesn't know about yet. HMMMM! Maybe you'll learn something about yourself you didn't know! Roll the dice!
2006-11-10 00:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Luis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him and be nice. You might be pleasantly surprised. There are worse things than a dull evening. Do your part to make it interesting.
2006-11-09 19:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
jboy it could be he was really nervous and uncomfortable. give it a shot. im sure it will be more uncomfortable if you turn him down and have to see him in the store periodically. hopefully it wont be dull. if its not your cup of tea, simply end the date by saying this isnt going to work. thanks for the date. be yourself, you have great qualities.
2006-11-09 19:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by shyboy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flirt enough to get him to pay for your drinks at least. Free drinks never hurt anyone.
2006-11-09 19:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make the most of it...maybe you'll shock yourself and have fun!
Maybe you'll even make a friend
2006-11-09 19:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋