About six years ago I was molested. I was ten years old & didn't tell anyone. For a few years after that I blocked it out of my memory. But I had to take a survey in 9th grade about sexual abuse, and all the memories came back. Since then I think about it constantly, what I woulda-coulda-shoulda done, and I feel guilty.
I can't seem to open up to people, and I get scared of people when they have a crush on me. I'm not afraid of guys, or being touched, like people would think if I told them.
I just told my parents last night and my best friends today. My parents said that we could take it somewhere legally, and get me counselling, but only with my permission. What are my options? Are there any sights that might help me out or give me some information?
2006-11-09 10:54:14 · 3 answers · asked by epitome of innocence 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I do feel broken, used and dirty like you said. That guy was such a pervert! A 50 year old with a fetish for 10 year olds and pics of nude girls on his computer. I wonder if they could get him on those charges?
I really can't afford counselling either, I'm think there may be a program or something through my school, or through USC or something. I'm hoping. Otherwise, I choose food over counselling.
2006-11-09 11:16:53 · update #1
The simple answer is to inform the police - they will investigate!
You need to do this not only for yourself, but to protect other young girls as he won't stop until he's caught and behind bars, where he deserves to be.
2006-11-09 21:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by glawster2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never molested but, I was involved in an abusive relationship with my ex-husband and it involved sexual abuse. I never went through counseling but, I can relate to the feelings you describe as not being able to open up to people and being scared of them when they have a crush on me. Unlike anything you've mentioned, I also felt broken, dirty, and used. If I could have afforded their services, I would have seriously considered counseling. The one thing I did have to my benefit, however, was that I work at a hospital and had made plenty of friends who had been trained in how to deal with the problems I was having and they offered to help me work through those problems. If your parents are offering to take you somewhere to get counseling and even take this somewhere legally then you should feel fortunate for having their support and be willing to listen to their advice. They have been here longer and just because they may not have been through the exact same situation that you have been through doesn't make them stupid or lame. They may have had friends or relatives involved in similar situations. Either way I am sure they are wise and are more than willing to share their wisdom as well as support with you if only you'll accept it. Once you accept it, you might be surprised at the healing you receive both physically, and emotionally. I hope I have provided you with some help. Talk to your parents, they sound as though they are very understanding people who are willing to help.
2006-11-09 19:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by ace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek help where you can i wasnt molested but through serious family problems i became depressed from the age of six the best thing i ever did was get counciling, at first it will be hard to talk about it and at times you will cry you will have to delve into things youd like to forget but how ever long it takes you can over come this its your life dont ever let any one steal you future especialy if they have you past stay positive find a friend who will be there for you another alternative if you cant talk about it wright about it even if you keep it private or give it to some one an leave them to read it alone, you will no what works for you but when you can stay positive and be yourself and enjoy every thing you get from life now good luck with your future my thoughts are with you
2006-11-09 19:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by LIL'EM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋