its been a over a year since my muslim husband left me for a another woman, he comes to see me now and then because we are sorted the finances out but he still says that he is sorry and that one day everything will be okay, when i say to him take me to her, bring your stuff and come home he says he can't cause she says she will commit suicide if he leaves her and plus she is alone in this country because she is from turkey. He says he cares for me but he has not really made an effort to make this marriage work, he lives with her.. What should i do after my finances are sorted out? tell him to bugger off or tell him to run his life my way. i have confronted them both many times but he only gives a damn about her.. I made that guy he didnt have nothing but since she's come in his life he has lost his businesses, i am getting the houses cause i paid for them in the first place.. i am seriously confused and need some advise. He lies to me constantly and my family hates him.. i have no kid
2006-11-09 10:45:30 · 14 answers · asked by zaina k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As much as it might hurt you need to move on with your life. Some men will take women for granted because they see how much you love them. And sometimes you have to put their love to the test....so start seeing someone else to see if he even cares. If he truly loves you he will come back to you because it will hurt him too much to see you with someone else and if he shows no concern than I would suggest you let him go especially if there are no children involved. He will realize what he's lost in the long run and that is when you have to be strong and stay strong.
2006-11-09 10:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by topolove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of him breaking the marriage vow don't you understand? How many times do you need to stick your hand in the fire (hoping he will come back) and repeat getting burned don't you understand??
What has happened in your life that makes you think you deserve to be treated like this? He has made his choice over and over again, It is her.
Once the finances are settled move on. It is better for you to be from a broken home than for you to continue to live in one.
Once you are away from him get some conseling so that you don't repeat this bahavior. You deserve a man who will honor, love and respect his vows. If not then why even get married?
His excuse that she will kill herself has nothing to do with you and your husband. She is in't part of your relationship. If he has been gone for more than a year........what part of this don't you understand. He has left the marriage. He betrayed everything he said in his marriage vows. And you think he might come back.
Hon, move on and learn that you deserve better.
2006-11-09 11:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want a guy back who left you for another woman and like you said is a liar? Don't waste your time on him. Even if he comes back could you trust him? Maybe he will come back for the money, who knows. Once that trust is lost it is very hard to get it back. But in this case I think it has gone too far and you should move on.
2006-11-09 10:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't believe any more of his lies!!!
get all your money houses etc that is due to you
and when that happens give him the flick
don't have him in your life ever
you need to have more respect for yourself because you deserve it & its great you have no kid to him
get yourself a job if you haven't got one & join some nice club etc where you can find a nice man who will be kind loving & trusting to you
all the best
2006-11-09 10:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he use you to immigrate? If so he may have always been with 'the other woman'. If you came back you would just be waiting for the next time, that is no kind of life.
2006-11-09 10:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you are confused............he is a liar and a cheat and he wants you to sit there and wait for him (which will be never). He is just playing games. The bottom line is either be a player in his games or toss his sorry a$$ aside and get on with your life
2006-11-09 11:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want a man that treats you like crap? Don't you think you deserve to be with someone that if faithful and loves only you?
Let this man go and start your life again.
2006-11-09 10:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should leave her and then he would not have her as a problem anymore. After he gets back with you....kick him out of your life!! he will not have her to go home to. You are way to good for him. Hold your head high and proud.
Good luck.
2006-11-09 10:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by roxy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he come's over have a man there make him mad be in a robe kiss your date on the lips and say 1 sec i have to change ps you don't really hve to have unlees you whant to
2006-11-09 10:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by A P 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You'll find no joy there-move onward and upward!
2006-11-10 02:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by sue m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋