I just turned 30 and I was stressed about that, well being a female n all. Two days later my brother killed him self. Is it okay to be angry? I just dont understand? I so lost.
2006-11-09 10:27:58 · 8 answers · asked by Letme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could feel the whole range of emotions after a tragedy like that. Anger is appropriate and so is shock. Give yourself a break the next few days so you can begin to grieve. Things will get back to normal but it will be awhile. If you want to write more you are welcome to email me. Best of luck to you, I am very sorry.
2006-11-09 10:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that... yes it is okay to be angry. U will most probably feel a range of emotions over the next few months. This is all a part of the mourning process... U need to feel and grieve all these emotions or u will truly never understand and move on
2006-11-09 10:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Abbey R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry for your loss. Yes, it is ok to feel angry, in fact, it is normal to feel that way for awhile. As it is to feel shocked , hurt , lost, etc. You won't feel this way forever. Your brother did not do this to hurt you or to hurt anyone else. He obviously felt alot of pain in his own life and felt he couldn't cope any longer. He probably did this to escape his own pain, felt it was the only way he could. I'm sure he loved you very much and he never wanted to hurt you or the rest of his family,he just felt this was the only answer to deal with his own pain. I don't think we will ever fully understand suicide, maybe we aren't supposed to. All you can do is love him and love him forever even though he is no longer with you on this earth, I'm sure he is in spirit. Comfort yourself with his memory, no one can take those from you. If you still feel this way in a month or 2 you should seriosly cosider counseling. This may help you understand your feelings better than any of us can. Once again, I am truly sorry for your loss and I hope you can forgive your brother. God Bless.
2006-11-10 14:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by burnettebreeze98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to not understand death. It's normal to not understand why your brother did this when he had family that loved him. It's okay to feel upset and other emotions you feel. Just try to stay strong for your family and stay close to them. Give everyone support because they are going to the same thing you are. In time you'll get through it. I'm very sorry for your loss and hope that everything goes well!
2006-11-09 10:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very very sorry to hear about your loss. It is okay to be angry or sad, or confused. It is very hard to lose someone, especialy to lose someone in such a way. I would suggest seeing a therapist... also seek support of the rest of family, and of course don;t forget to support the rest of your family. Good luck.
2006-11-09 10:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very very sorry.
Yes it is o.k. to be angry....for as long as you may feel you need to be.
You turning 30 was at that time at the top of your list!
you had NO way of knowing your brother was to die.
Just be there for family, and do NOT beat yourself up....
You must now try to stay well.....You had no way...to know, and
you were just living life...as we all do.
Stay close to family, if you can...or friends.
2006-11-09 10:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be angry, there's probably nothing you could have done about it. i'm so sorry, losing someone is so hard. unfortunately, life doesn't stop when someone dies, so hang in there and find a shoulder to cry on. don't keep everything inside either, or else it will just get worse. God bless! i'll pray for you.
2006-11-09 10:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by nameisie90 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know how you feel, my brother got cancer... i was scared outta my mind that he was gonna die, he didnt. god bless you, and good luck...
2006-11-09 11:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by b3lla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋