I am paranoid of having children. I am not prone to pain, and I am only 5 feet 110 pounds. (I always wonder how something that big would fit in and pass through my body!?!?) My mom and grandmother had problem free pregnancies. (My mom's fifth child she had gestational diabetes) but that was the biggest complication.There was no morning sickness or illnesses or complications at birth. I just always feel like I am going to get the worst syptoms with EVERYTHING that ever happens to me, and having children is my WORST FEAR. Can some one help ease my fears? Thanks!
2006-11-09 10:22:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There is no way to know if you are going to have a problem free pregnancy seeing you havent been pregnant. I was never overly scared about the pain, but i was a little anxious when i fell pregnant this time (im 33wks pregnant with my first child). All the myths about the pain and suffering you go through dont apply to all women as of course not all women get it.
I did get morning sickness (but never threw up), i never got cravings (until now lol), never had probs with blood pressure or anything else either. Except im really big, with stacks of stretch marks lmao and bub kicks all the time. Im short like you (5'2) and my mother is 5'1. So we are both short as well.
Ive had no problems so far, except for niggly cramps which is natural. My mother had problems giving birth to me and my younger sister. But was fine with my brother. All women are different hun, even with the pain threshold. One minute u think u can cope, next u think u cant. If it really worries you that much, why dont u seek some advice from a gyneocologist to tell you the facts about birth (not just the painful stuff) and talk to some mothers out there from all different types of the spectrum. It may make it easier on you to hear the many positive stories out there.
For me, ive had my ups and downs and as i said i was anxious in the beginning. When i saw my first ultrasound picture of my baby boy all my fears disappeared. Only the love that i felt for him mattered more than anything else in the world. I still have my days where i feel pain, or i cant sleep because he kicks. But out of a lifespan of roughly 80years, im only going to be pregnant for maybe 3 years of that.
3 years is worth all the pain of pregnancy if i can spend the rest of my lifetime with my kids and grandkids.
Hope that helps and good luck.
2006-11-09 10:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by gr33n_3y3d_grrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a doctor but I don't think even a doctor could tell you, you would be problem free, there are no guarantees. Since your mother & generations before had no problems, the odds are better for you. Think about this- having children is a sacrifice- made from love- so what if you get a little sick or have little complications... the end result is much greater than anything you could dream. Also the docs take good care of you!
2006-11-09 10:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, dear. It's ALWAYS a gamble. Your mom and grandma may have it in their genes for a healthy pregnancy, but what about your dad's side? What about maternal aunts and great-aunts?
Then you also have your personal environment, health habits, and the fact that you are neither your mom or your grandma. You are you with your own uniqueness.
I am not trying to scare you out of having children, but there is never any guarantee that it's going to go well or not.
2006-11-09 10:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 09:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you have a fear that is quite common. Seek therapy and work through whatever issues. It is worth it :) I am sure that your chances of having a rough pregnancy are low.
2006-11-09 10:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with my first child I only weighted 95 pounds and with my second I weighted 105. Just because your parents ex.. have problems does not always mean that you will have them as well. Both of my pregnancies went well! BEST WISHES
2006-11-09 10:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋