why does she do this?

Question

i have this friend and she just started cutting her wrists..and i think its stupid..i've tried it once and it doesnt feel that good..i mean sure it takes away your bad feelings.. buit seriously..im worried about her and everytime she gets into something new like smoking or drinking or steaking or whatever her mom thinks its my fault why she does those things. i just dont understand why she does it to herself and me and her family and friends that care about her..gosh im SO hurt..and i just dont want her to start thinkiong that its cool to all that stuff..
because its not..
help me please...asap

Answer 1

ok.
shes like I used to be abit like that and have had meney frends like that.
shes abit depresive and shuld get some mentell help frome a dokter of the mind.
get her some mentell medacashion.
or she will start doing druges and drinking to wot we call self meadacate.
she is saverly deprest.
this hapens to ppl.
its normill for some one that has a cemicall inbalince in thair brane.
shes not crasey she gust neads medacashion.
and to grow up abit.
she feals so numb right now that the paine makes her feall alive.
its hard to explan.
she might wont to die some times.
for this saverity of a condishion she will probly allways be this way allitell.
some times will be werce than others.
ceap her away from drugs she will be prone to them.
tell her parints to get her to the school sike pepl.
or tell your parints to get her invole her in somthing like this.

THIS IS NOT HER FALT SHE HAS A CEMICALL INBALINCE.

Answer 2

I use to work as a childcare worker and later as a foster parent. We had one girl who did this a lot. In her case she was insecure and very dependant, yet she also was manipulative and aggressive ('normal' when your own parents abuse you; it is sometimes hard to trust surrogate parents). When she eventually pushed us too far and we withdrew from her a little she began cutting and scarring her wrists -her way to try to alarm us and force us to draw close again.

The problem is this behavior can be a symptom of so many different things, including those that could lead to actual suicide, that it is best evaluated by a professional. She needs therapy.

Answer 3

it sounds like your friend is hurting inside, and no one can see that, so she's hurting herself on the outside in hopes that someone will notice that something is really wrong. cutting is very dangerous and it doesn't make the hurt go away, it only makes things worse. and regardless of what her mom thinks, it's not your fault that she's doing this to herself. this is a choice she has made. and she needs help in order to stop doing it.
I know it will be hard, but can you talk to her mom about this? I understand that you're probably not comfortable with her mom, but if she loves her daughter, she will put her feelings toward you aside long enough to listen to you.
there are treatment centers that deal with the very problem your friend has, and it sounds to me like she should be in one of them before she does more damage to herself, or cuts too deep and bleeds to death before someone can get her to a hospital.
I know you're hurting too, and could probably use some help dealing with your own problems, so please give some thought to that too.
I wish you and your friend the very best, and I hope you will get some help for yourself as well as your friend. you shouldn't have to deal with all this on your own.

Answer 4

You have to tell someone, she needs help. You don't want anything more to happen to her. Tell someone you trust. She obviously won't be happy with you for telling someone, but she will thank you later. When she realizes the mistakes she made. Just keep being a good friend to her, cuz thats what she needs. She might be depressed or having problems with school, family and relationships. Just get her some help, its the best thing you can do for her.

Answer 5

I had a friend once who was very self-destructive. She was suicidal, and bulemic amongst other things. As a friend, there was not much I could do. She didn't listen to anything I said. I tried to show her and convince her that she was loved and that this life was worth living, but it didn't even phase her. So I went to her parents told them that they were losing their little girl and that it was time they step in. And they did. She stopped talking to me for a long time, until she got better. Now she is happy, recently married with a baby on the way.

Answer 6

I am no psychologist so I can't directly answer this question, nor can anyone else in my opinion, without being such. My advice to you would be to report it to the school counselor if nothing is being done by her parents. It is not normal behavior to physically harm yourself and obviously your friend is crying out for help. Also, if you report it to a school counselor or another "official" this will let the parents know that you are not in favor of this kind of damaging behavior and in fact care enough about your friend to get her the help she needs.

Answer 7

This is very strange.

I heard about this crap from a neighbor whose 14 year old daughter has a circle of friends that slash their wrists for kicks. I don't think they want to commit suicide, but it's like some sort of counterculture, Goth thing. I really don't get it.

Kids that are doing this need to be admitted to a psychiatric ward. If your friend's family isn't dealing with this situation appropriately, you need to contact the proper authorities: police, social services.

Answer 8

Hey Bro,

When I was 17 my best friend went to jail for armed robbery This taught me how hard consequences can be. I silently decided to find new types of friends and took on new habbits like working out and paying more attention to work. Well the bad choices I had made before this point in time kept me depressed and I had a void for having fun stuff like that. Well over-whelmed with emotions one day just after my 18th birthday I felt over-whelmed with depression a sence of tears that hurt to long. My life just wasn't where I wanted it to be. So I hung myself how long I was there I d/k but my sister found me and my mother did cpr after They got me down. I was revived obviously but for years I felt like **** as I made my mom cry. All it did was give me a deaper void so it was dumn very dumn my mother these days is always nagging me to take meds. My best suggestion is to keep good habbits do something like go to movies frequently focusing only on laughing talk of the bright side of stress. Get emotional especially on the topic of depression and then after that conversation is done do something to cheer her up.It's tough to deal with seeing someone like that but stand your ground. Know what I mean?Avoid silence even if she is quiet that's something that got to me most I was quiet and depressed while everyone else was doing so much better that way. Well I know that's not much but is the best advice I can give.

Peace,

TOM SAM

One day there'll be no fear and doubt and we'll laugh and cheer while we're here.

Answer 9

my friend does it too its not easy going through somthing like this but tell her cutting your selfs not the answer it will leave a scare and tha sscare will be the for your whole life boy are also put off by girls hu self harm i noo this because i did it once over a boy and now his name is scared into my arm most people call me stuiped and the boys are offten put off by it people will then start to call u names its not nice ive been there!! let her noo your there for her and that u can be trust tell her tha every one cares and cutting her self does make the problems go away just the pain !!! and can i say u sound like a gurd mate your friend should be proud to have u i would be x x x

Answer 10

Her mother blames you because if she doesn't blame someone else she will have to take responsibility herself. She is in denial which may be part of your friend's problem - her mother isn't SEEING her so she's acting out her pain.

You can try to persuade your friend to talk to someone in authority that can help her like the school nurse or counselor - even a trusted teacher. If you feel strongly about it, you could even call child social services and report it.

Thank you for being her friend.