Well.....here goes....ive always been an out going person......its just the way i am.....i walk up and talk to anyone and everything...i make it a principal to get 10 hugs and day and make 3 new friends...its just the way i am.....ive always been an extrovert....but see....im starting to doubt myself becouse my boyfriend dumped me.......he said i was a flirt.....but thats not ever my goal......i talk to boys and girls alike with no sexual intention in mind...im a faithfull girlfriend....like i said ive ALWAYS been outgoing... the kind of girl who would say what others are afraid of...and take up for the minorities....its just who i am its me.....but i want to know...was he in the right? should i change my attitude? i dont like to be burned twice but im past the depressed feel sorry for myself stage into the wondering what i did wrong and how to fix it stage......any advice?? What should i do?? I lame of me to ask...but hey im lame 2! well thanx for any advice youd like to share...
2006-11-09 10:09:48 · 19 answers · asked by ...... 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your ex was the loser, Nessa. Please don't ever think of changing yourself to please ANYONE! It sounds like he is really insecure, and no, he was not in the right. In the past I have experienced people accusing me of what they are guilty of themselves. Much like you, I am a life long extrovert and sometimes people have taken my friendliness and reaching out for sexual advances. You are very young. You still have plenty of time to meet someone who can love and accept you; someone who will not be threatened by the caring person that you are!
2006-11-09 10:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not lame. Don't be so tough on yourself. I mean, ok maybe he did perceive that you weren't serious about your relationship. But he should have talked with you about it instead of just dumping you. You can probably do better, anyway. You will find someone one day whom you will truly love, and who will love you back. And who understands your personality! But just be mindful of your actions, in the future. I don't know you, so I don't know if you're a "flirt" or whatever, but have other guys said the same? Do they think that you're trying to hook up with other guys? What looks like one thing to you may look like something totally different to others. But as long as you don't have any unsettling feelings that you are in the wrong--if you are comfortable with how you are, and you have truly searched yourself and you don't feel any guilt, then you have nothing to be sorry for. But if you do have some questionable behavior (and we ALL do at some point, nobody is perfect!), then work to fix it! And move on! You're alright. :) Good luck.
2006-11-09 10:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by peachy78 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What??? No way, the world needs more people like YOU, don't change a thing. If he thinks you are a flirt, than he is the one with the issues, and unless he faces them and works through them.......
You are better off without someone who will want you to give up a great personality trait.
2006-11-09 10:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about him.. Find some one who shares your prospective in life. There are many people in this world that do not always agree with what we do, they take it as a sign of being flirtatious. But you are just a naturally happy person. Don't get your self down about it. There is some one who you will click with that shares your views.....
2006-11-09 10:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by dani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really cant say anything because we only have one side of the story. I think you should just ask your self the question because if you really seem like a flirt then..well...to me u seem like just a friendly person just screw your boy friend and move on.
2006-11-09 10:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by shojib12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! im soooo sry he dumped u...... i know how u feel...... but plz! dont change who u are, cause if he didnt like how u were thts his lost.....REALLY! its NOT ur fault.....maybe he just wanted some time 2 hisself.......or if u would kida follow him around a lot and not give him personal space, he probably thought u were obsessed w/him! so jus give him some time....and space and i promise everything will work out.............
2006-11-09 10:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be more satisfied with confident men and not the insecure types. Be who you are and be proud of it. There are many guys out there that wish they had a girl like you.
2006-11-09 10:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by firestarter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're better off with out him. He sounds jealous of your personality. Don't change yourself for any1 cos they;re not worth it. You have to live with you 24-7.
2006-11-09 10:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by BeautifulJustBeautiful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about that you just do you. He should know that you are a people person. He is the one with the problem
2006-11-09 10:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by â?¥ Pawya! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he feels insecure about the way you are, then he's the one with the problem.
You don't need to change who you are.
Good luck.
2006-11-09 10:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by harttattoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋