ok, there is this girl and shes a brat and we hate eachother. but all of my friends like her even though she is a fat pig. i feel stupid around her. what do i do?
2006-11-09 10:03:09 · 29 answers · asked by angie z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you sound like a brat! get a life and treat everyone as you like to be treated!
2006-11-09 10:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by uzurhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like your friends don't see her as a 'brat' and a 'fat pig' and have gotten to know who she is inside and like it. She most likely is aware that you see her as only a 'fat pig' and is resentful and shows it by fighting with you.
Feeling stupid around her might be because you really want her to like you but you can't get around her social defences. Sometimes, folks that are overweight or with some other imperfection tend to build emotional walls around themselves to avoid being hurt so much by people that don't take the time to look beyond the superficial. She most likely thinks you are one of those people, and you feeling stupid could be that you think that way, too, and want to move past that.
Try to find something to like about her and dwell on that. Find something to admire and let her know you admire it. Things like that. Try to find the part of her that she shares with your friends but hides from you because she thinks you will hurt her if she opens up to you.
Good luck!
2006-11-09 18:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by cdb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old did you say you were??
anyways grow up. just becasue she's fat doesnt make her a pig or a brat. maybe others like her for a reason. maybe she hates you because you are a b****. if you feel stupid around her its because you are stupid.
hope this helps make you a better person some years from now.
2006-11-09 18:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by brightlamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever wonder why you hate her? Why do you feel the need to describe her as a fat pig?
Why don't you ask her privately why you both got off on the wrong foot and what you can both do to change it? You'll probably end up being the best of friends. Try it.
2006-11-09 18:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to really look at the situation closely... Why do you hate her so much? She must have some good qualities or all of your other friends wouldn't like her. Why do you feel stupid around her? Does she make you feel insecure? Answer these questions to yourself and maybe you will come up with some answers.
2006-11-09 18:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to a friend of mine. She told her friends this "How I feel about Brittany should have nothing to do with our friendship. love you guys, but I hate her." So my advice is to say the same thing to your friends and tell them you'll try your best to be civil as long as she is civil to you. If you are mean to this girl the rest of your friends will eventually split up. The ones that like you more and the ones that like her more. There might some that stay neutral though, but I wouldn't count on it. I hope everything works out for you please e-mail me and tell me what happens!
2006-11-09 18:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by mstweetstarr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what does being fat have to do with ANYTHING? And second of all if you don't like her just don't be friends with her. Be respectful to her as another human being. Have a little chat with her. Tell her that just because the two of you can't seem to get along doesn't mean you can't be in the same room with all of your friends and be civil to one another. You'll just simply agree to disagree and get on with you lives. Who knows, maybe one day you'll discover you have someting in common and can become friends. Good luck.
2006-11-09 18:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You in h.s.? middle school? I know when I was, there was a TON of girls like that (every grade, man!) This chick's got something goin' for her tho (since you get the impression everyone likes her.. omg!) I tell my daughter now that when she feels 'stupid' don't give this other person 'power' over her.. which is just what she is doing. I tell my kid that 'people push you and say a lotta crap to ya just to SEE if you will do what they tell ya..' (which is precisely it.. they are trying to 'tell you what to do' when they diss ya!) you are NOT stupid.. (repeat that to yourself..) by the way! lol oh, also IF anyone in here answers ya to 'try and talk to her.. be her friend?' don't listen to 'em. (They don't know how these girls can back stab ya, man!) lmao
2006-11-09 18:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what you should do, it depends on a lot of different things, like whats wrong with her, are you being voer dramatics, why do you guys "hate" eachother? All that stuff. Reply and then I could probably help you.
2006-11-09 18:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by blinkbackyesterday@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's up with the name calling? You need to ask yourself is the reason you like her about her or you. She is who she is and so are you. If you don't like her, just find someone else to hang out with.
2006-11-09 18:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by freeme529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋