Now i have found out that i am pregnant i am unsure about what to do,
Me and my boyfriend are still together, we already have a young child who is 17 months old, and we are in a difficult situation
Help please
2006-11-09 09:57:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It all depends on your personal circumstances, if you're only in early stages you have some time to consider your options. I would discuss it with your boyfriend and decide what's best for both of you. It won't make you a bad person if you feel like you're not ready to become a mum again just yet although I would take time to discuss all your options first. Speak to your local famil planning clinic and be honest with them and explain your situation, they won't make a decision for you, ultimately you'll have to do that but they will give you help and support depending on which route you take. Good luck.
2006-11-09 10:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Haribo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you know you have 3 options. Keep the baby, terminate the pregnancy or adoption ( granted this is the hardest option and your 17 month old may be confused as to whats going on and where the baby went ) only you and your partner can make this decision, you need to weigh up the fors and against each option and make a decision based on your personal circumstances. As much as I couldnt terminate a pregnancy myself I appreciate that this is sometimes the best option for al, including the possible child. I hope you come to a decision and dont let anyone elses opinion and beliefs make you feel like a bad person. Good luck
2006-11-09 10:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ktloop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should think about how much you love your 17 month old and if your like most parents you are very happy you have her/him and with this baby it will be the same at times it will be difficult but life isnt easy take a chance bring someone into the world that might change it for the better, or at least put it up for adoption so a family could have a baby that nautrally wouldnt be able to. good luck
2006-11-09 10:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by JayNell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear pregnant and unsure,
what are you unsure about. That little baby is the most precious thing in the world. You need to keep it and love it. I understand that it is tough having a baby. I have a 15 month old right now and going through a divorce. I still love his father but at one point in my life when my son was 7 months old i was unsure. His father was in Iraq and i was all alone. I really fucked up and left my son with my parents and went out and thought i had a good time. I missed out on everything, his first words, his first steps and even his first birthday. I also got myself in trouble, but i have cleaned up my act and now i am with my son. He is my pride and joy and i would not change anything about him. Little ones are a blessing in disguise. Keep your head up and be the best mother you can be.
2006-11-09 10:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by thumperprice26 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are the only one who can answer this, you need to think long and hard, I don't recommend abortion, that's just plain murder, in my opinion. But there are choices, for instance, if you do not want this baby, there are so many childless couples out there that desperately want to love a baby and raise them, but are you going to be able to live with giving your baby up. If you decide to do this, you are giving the child a chance at a good life, and its a very unselfish act. But then again, maybe you will carry this baby a few months and decide to keep it, I would not make any rash decisions as of yet, think everything over carefully. If your situation is financial, that can be remedied, and there are programs to help, everyone gets in tight spots. Good Luck whatever you decide.
2006-11-09 10:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i dont see a problem.. am i nieve,, ur 17 month old will be over 2 years old.. wheres the problem with that? most siblings are a year or more difference in age...
when a friend of mine had her forth child she had a 1 yd old, 2 yr old and 4 yr old! she coped, and had no money...
2006-11-09 10:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by shelokay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you can get help many ways...find a family planning center near y'all, apply for medacaid & food stamps, you have 1 child, why not have 2..even though It's hard, but you can always get help..just look @ it like this..at least ur 17month old won't be lonely and will have a playmate later on..but get your tubes tied!! if you don't want anymore children after this 2nd ok?
2006-11-09 10:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by superkisses86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know yourself either you have an abortion, or else do what you did the last time and probably will do again. Stop breeding for a while and get a good life going.
2006-11-09 11:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would discuss it with your boyfriend and make the correct decision for the two of you together.
I can't give more advice without knowing more details.
I hope this goes well for you.
2006-11-09 11:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have some compasion for you, i had a termination before i had my son.
I regret it so much every day, i look at my son and imagine them playin together.
Trust me, you never forgive yourself, i have not.
I hope u keep this baby, it may be hard at first, but in the long run it wil be worth it.
thinkin of u hun.
2006-11-09 10:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋