My husband and I have been married for 6 years. When we were still just dating he and I had sex everynight. Literally, the night we got married that all ended. It started out as once a week for the first couple of months, then once a month for the next year after that, and from there it has progressed to once every 2-3 months. I think porn is the problem. He has been watching it since he was 6 (yeah I know that is wrong) and while he has tried to give it up several times it never works. I have tried watching it with him, buying it for him, and acting out those scenes, which all work only once. I am attractive and in good shape, as is he, so I doubt it's physical. If he loves the porn so much why did he bother to get married? Why do any men get married? They will always want another woman, so what is the point?
2006-11-09 09:57:13 · 15 answers · asked by Minuet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk about role reversal. Usually it is the woman who gives up on sex. Good for you for trying to stick with it. He married you because at one time in his life he knew you were the only person in the world whom he could really cherish. He needs to explore himself and find that again. Good Luck
2006-11-09 10:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by jessica s 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Can't speak for all men, but I married because I wanted a family life with children. Obviously, there are other issues such as love, companionship, physical attraction, exclusivity, partnership. But you can have all of those things without getting married. However, in terms of having family life with children, it makes good sense to get married, particularly if one has religious views about marriage.
In your specific situation, I think your husband suffers from sexual addiction. He needs to go to counseling and go to some sort of sex addicts support group. Porn will ruin your marriage. You and your husband should also go to marriage counseling.
I agree with you. If a man doesn't want exclusivity, and he wants to watch porn, then he should not get married.
2006-11-09 10:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jack C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good men marry for love but you should know this!!!!! you say he has been watch porn since he was 6 you must of had some idea about this b4 you got married you should know no matter how much you try this wont change unless he wants it to, also if he wanted another woman he would never of said "i do" to you. personally it sounds like you need to chill let him have his porn but dont invole yourself with that part of your life dont buy it for him if he wants it he can get it. Be happy!!!!!!!
2006-11-09 10:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by uk_louis_1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about taking the question and turning it around... Why do women bother getting married to men who they KNOW are addicted to porn, and then complain about it?
It takes two to create problems in a relationship, don't play a victim. For as long as you're asking why *he* is doing this or that - you will perpetually feel like you can't control the situation, it will always be "his" fault. As soon as you ask why *you* make certain choices, you can start learning about changing things, and making better choices in the future.
2006-11-09 10:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think men get married becuase they eventually get tired of the chase and figure it wouldn't be so bad to have a 24/7 piece of *** in the house and someone to mother them (pick up after them, etc.). Better question would be: "Why haven't us women realized that men don't change?!"
2006-11-09 11:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by animal_mother 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
opposite to extensive-unfold thought, many adult males do prefer to quiet down. This truthfully relies upon on the particular guy of direction, and additionally age. Getting laid is something that many adult males do delight in, and sharing with male buds. even with the undeniable fact that, after sufficient years of the only existence bypass, the conquest loses its allure. it may get previous, and then the assumption of having a companion starts off to look alluring. extremely looking in any respect your different male acquaintances start to quiet down, and that they become much less accessible to spend time and proportion interior an identical "entertainment acitivities". With constrained time with the adult males and no lady back abode to, it may get lonely. I additionally disagree with the undeniable fact that maximum adult males cheat. some adult males cheat, and that i think of that that is a hallmark of a greater robust difficulty, that the relationship isn't passable to a minimum of one or the two events in touch. there is not any factor settling down for the sake of settling down on my own. It in basic terms is wise while 2 persons are severe approximately being with one yet another. If marriage isn't for you, or not for you on the time, then there is an common answer. do merely not. while you're on the think approximately your existence the place slumbering with distinctive companions is alluring, merely be open and user-friendly approximately it. discover somebody who needs comparable to you, casual intercourse no strings linked. That way, you get what you're searching for and no person has to get harm interior the approach (or a minimum of decrease the probabilities of it).
2016-11-23 13:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why anyone gets married these days. We can all live independently and get love from our friends and families. What do we need marriage for?
2006-11-09 10:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We marry women so they shut up and stop asking us to marry them. I could tell you the problem in more detail regarding what happen to your sex life but yahoo would delete it.
2006-11-09 10:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by mrfoxhorn 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2006-11-09 10:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your husband is not typical, though you are not alone. There are millions of husbands out there tearing their hair out at their wife's unwillingness to have sex.
2006-11-10 03:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋