My parents split up when i was 2. I have been living with my mom all my life. I have one lil brother here. At my dad's i have 2 lil brother with another one on the way. I kind of want to live with my dad but I am kind of afraid my mom will hate me and I am also afraid of any major change. He lives an hour away. What should I do?
2006-11-09 09:56:39 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stay with your moms
2006-11-09 09:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st how old are you? if you are younger then a certain age it might not matter where you want to live but where the courts decided to put you. However if your parents have a friendly relationship then they can work it out themselves to try and let you stay there. You should however tell your mother ( i dont know her but assuming this), there should be no reason for her to HATE you just because you want to live with your father! Maybe you can try and stay there for a little while and get used to it before moving in and be bomb-barred with all these new rules and everything else. Also think about your dads wants. He already Had two little kids and now another one on the way...can he support everyone money wise? is there room in the house? Do you and his wife get along? think about all that hope this helps and you haven't fallin asleep
2006-11-09 10:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you want to live with your dad. If you're being abused at home (God forbid), then it needs to stop and living with your Dad (assuming he's decent) might be a better option. Then again, your reasons may be simpler than that.
I would talk to the guidance counselor at your school. He or she can hlp you understand options. Also, you might want to consider asking about joint custody. You could stay ith your mothr part of the time, and you fathr the rest of the time. I don't think your Mom will hate you. She might feel a little bit sad; but if she loves you, she wants what's best for you and won't start hating you.
Divorce is hard on a kid. I'm sorry that your life was complicated just because your parents' relationship faild, but it was probably for the best that they slit up.
2006-11-09 10:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to live with your dad? I'm sure if you explain to your mom your reasons and make it clear that you still want to spend time with her and your brother that she will understand. She will never hate you. Also, does your dad know you want to live with him? Make sure you talk to him about it. Maybe you can work out a schedule to stay with him every weekend or something. Ask about the school district that you would move to...if it's better it may help your mom deal with it too.
2006-11-09 10:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is follow your heart. Major change is always a risk and will always be apart of your life. If your happy at your moms. I would tell you to say there but if you feel you could be better off at your dads. I am sure your mom would understand and not hate you. Remember shes your mom, she'll always love you.
2006-11-09 09:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by aiken877 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've been living with your mom for that long stay with her. Unless yall have problems & stuff I'd stay where you are.
My parents split 2 1/2 years ago. I now live with my mom in Illinois & my bro & dad live in Mississippi. So its hard. Atleast your dad only lives a hour away. I only see mine 4-5 times a year.
Me & my dad didn't get along great thats why I'm staying with my mom.
2006-11-09 09:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by kyle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable to miss a parent, but ask your mom if there is some way that you can have days where you live with your dad and days where you live with your mom. That way you can get what you want, but without totally ditching your mom.
2006-11-09 09:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out which parent would hate you if you choose to live with the other one...and go with the parent that would support you no matter what path you went on...If you mom will hate you for staying with dad, then she doesnt deserve to have you around all the time in my opinion...how petty and childish.
2006-11-09 09:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should ask your parents.Are you sure your dad is willing to support you full time? Looks like he has his hands full. Ask for a trial stay. Approach both parents and get their feedback on maybe 6 months with dad to see how it goes.If your mom has the potential for hating you, then maybe a stint with dad is a good idea.
2006-11-09 10:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No longer wanting to live with your mom will definitely hurt her, try staying with your dad for a while, who knows you will return to your mother as you are afraid of change.
2006-11-09 10:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spending the summer with your dad to see what it's really like. If it's not what you thought, you can still move back in time for school. When I have company, (grown children) I try to do all kinds of special things with them and if they lived with me it would be much different.
2006-11-09 10:09:27 · answer #11 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋