My husband wants our baby to be baptised, but I don't want him to be...what should I do?

Question

Our baby is due next month, and yesterday my husband and I were shopping for baby clothes and we saw some little outfits for a baby to be baptised in. He asked when would we get him baptised, and I replied that I didn't want him baptised. Religion has never been an issue before. He has a religion and I don't. I believe that our baby should be able to choose whether or not he wants to be baptised. My husband was pretty upset when I told
him I didn't want our child baptised (though he doesn't go to church or anything like that).

Do you think this is fair?
What should I do?

Thank you!

Answer 1

Kick your husband's ***.

Answer 2

Why do they want to baptize a baby. Baptism in water has nothing to do with being saved. The only way a person can be saved is to put their trust in Jesus and ask Him into their heart and life. Babies are under grace until they reach the age of accountability, then they are old enough to make there own decision. Why was your husband baptized if he is not going to follow the commandments of Jesus. Tell your Mother, your husband's parents With all due respect, that this is your decision not hers. And don't go back to that church, and by all means stay away from that priest, he doesn't know what he is talking about. Yes there is one God He is the Almighty, but there is one Saviour, He is Jesus, and there is one Holy Spirit, bet that priest won't tell you that.

Answer 3

It can be a pretty touchy subject when your views on baptism are different. Personally I don't believe in baptizing babies. Being baptised is choice for the baptisee, as a way of cleansing the soul and accepting Jesus one's Lord and Savior. It is a means of forgiving your sins and a Baby has no sins, let alone knows right from wrong. I feel it is a decision that should be made later by your Child once they understand what it means. However, it certainly won't hurt to have him/her baptized as an infant, it shows you do care about your child's salvation.

Good luck with what ever you decide.

Answer 4

I'm assuming you're an atheist, correct? A baptism doesn't necessarily assign someone to a religion, if it's really important to your husband, you can go ahead and go through with it...I mean, if you don't believe in all of that, then there's no harm, right? Then again, you can always wait for the kid to grow up and see what he or she wants. I was baptised as a baby...however, that was one of only 3 times I've ever been in a church.

Answer 5

I understand where you are coming from. If it is really important to your husband maybe the two of you can compromise. Would it bother you if did go ahead with the baptism and then as your child gets older leave the decision open for the child to make as to what beliefs he or she will have? Or another thing you can do is find a non denomination church that will do a dedication rather then a baptism. All they do is take the child up to the front and pray for him. Just remember, ultimately the decision will really be made by your child as he gets older, what harm is a little prayer going to do?
Good Luck

Answer 6

I do think it's fair of your husband and you should have your child baptized. Just because you don't have a faith, you're making that choice for your child already even though you state you want your child to make that decision. Respect the fact that your husband believes that if your child were to die, by being baptized right now, he will be with God in heaven. Your child can always decide on religion at a later age. You don't have to go to church to believe in God and marriage is all about compromise. This would be very easy for you to go along with and there's no harm. Don't be selfish!

Answer 7

This is a very touchy subject, it seems today people are afraid of whats to come of the earth and all humanity. What can it hurt to have the baby babtised. Maybe your husband is looking at the big picture. On the other hand you are the childs mother and you do know whats best for your baby and you. Do some research about babtisms and then you and your husband decide if it's the right thing to do. Your child can also change his mind later if he or she wants to. Best of luck with the new baby.

Answer 8

You said you did not have any religiion but your husband does.
Do you think it is fair to the child to see parents who do not agree on things??

This is a question that you should have straightened out before you became pregnant. If your husband feels so strongly about a baptism then baptize the child. The child can still decide later on if he wants to have religion or not. Baptism is not the end of the world you know but it could be the end of your marriage if you do not come to some agreement.

Answer 9

Most Churches will not baptize a child until they are over 12 years of age, and the child must be able to understand and accept what is being said to them. A blessing is performed at birth for a higher power to guide and protect a child, this is not the same as a baptism. Maybe compromise with your husband, agree to let your child be blessed if he will leave the baptism for the child to decide.

Answer 10

I kind of understand your thoughts (you must be an atheist?), but my siblings and I were baptised after we were born and don't mind or care today that our parents decided without us. It doesn't hurt the baby and she/he can convert to anything even atheism in the future if they feel like it. Its not an issue of money either - because churches baptise babies for free. Its just a nice Christian ritual ensuring your baby's place in heaven. So hey its good to do it if there really is a God!

Answer 11

I don't see why it would hurt having an infant baptism. If it is important to your husband and you forbid it, it will only cause friction and resentment in the future. Bite the bullet and go with it, but let the child decide what to believe in the future. Young kids generally have no idea of the concept of religion for many years, so it's not something that should be an issue for awhile.