My father wants my brother and I to start our own company cutting grass and crap like that and I am not in the least interested but he keeps bothering my brother and I about it! My brother and I don't want to say anything because we don't want to hurt his feelings because he is going through alot right now trying to cope with his illness and his blindness. How do I tell him that I am not interested without hurting his feelings?
2006-11-09 08:58:43 · 13 answers · asked by Sammee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are going to have to tell him straight, but softly. Simply say that that is not your cup of tea and that you have different plans. Tell him that you want to make him really proud of you and you don't see it happening that way. You want to do something bigger and better. I am so sorry about his health. But I think he will understand. He has a wonderful daughter who cares about his feelings enough to ask for advice. Good luck.
2006-11-09 09:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude....your father doesnt necessarily want you to "Cut grass" for no reason.
You said, "....start our own company.....cope w/ illness and his blindness...."
He's pressuring you two because he wants you two to be able to fend for yourself before his illness gets worse.
He's "Preparing" you in a sense by wanting you to take on the responsibility of owning a business. Also too, he wants something that will keep you and your brother close and this will be good for you.
Look beyond what you see him asking and in a sense he wants you to prepare for manhood, along with an activity that will keep you and your brother close.
If you dont like the idea of cutting grass....ask your father what he REALLY wants...and he'll tell you. Then you three can compromise on preparing you guys through this major shift in your family.
Cutting grass isnt that bad. Cheap equipment, regular weekly income, easy money.........
Just let him know that you know why he's mentioning what he is, but times have changed. Theres more out there than lawncare and you need to discuss the possibilities of other avenues of entrepreneurship.
Sorry to hear about your dads illness.....
2006-11-09 09:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are looking for a different line of work and tell him, its ok to have a conversation with your father.
You may be surprised that he supports your choice why are you scared of your father for goodness sake. Maybe he thinks this is the only way he can have a conversation with his children, he sounds lonely to me, maybe you could spend more time with him. Tell him about your plans and what you are interested in if this idea dosn't interest you.
2006-11-09 09:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ur dad is trying to do the best for you so try it out. If you just absoulutely can't do it, then you and your brother talk to him about it and tell him you'll try it some other time because your too busy right now in this stage of your life.
2006-11-09 09:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diaz gave you the absolutely best answer. He said what I was thinking as I read your post.
Your Dad isn't always going to be around and he is doing what he can to get you and your brother self reliant.
One of a parents worse fears is if their children are going to be alright if something were to happen to them.
Give him a hug and be grateful. I wish I had my Dad here to drive me crazy....
2006-11-11 05:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can't. But irrespective of whatever he is "going through," unless you happen to be economically dependent on him (are you?), he has no business telling you how to make a living.
On thing I have learned about people's feelings....they are responsible for them. I'm not responsible for somebody else's feelings, and neither are you. I think you have to be honest with him and if he gets upset, oh well........
To approach it any other way amounts to emotional blackmail on his part.
2006-11-09 09:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come up with a better way to make money that you think your father would approve, but you should really think about starting your own company its a big A plus
2006-11-09 09:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by passion1foxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain to him that you have something else going on in your life right now and that when you can you will look into the buisness that he wants you to open and eventually maybe he'll just stop bugging you about it. if not just talk to him nicely and tell him your not really interested in doing that for a living.
2006-11-09 09:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come up with something different that you and your brother both like to do that you can make money at...
2006-11-09 09:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try it. When you see all of the money that you can get....you will be suprised and happy. If your father is having all of those problems maybe it would make him happy.
2006-11-09 09:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋