how come when someone speaks of love and peace and putting away differences to work together people get?

Question

all mad and try to critisize and cut you down for feeling like that

Answer 1

i wonder the same thing. its people like Kevin b that makes it hard. we all our products of our up bringing not humane nature. my self I'm going to keep speaking of love peace and happiness. i don't put away the differences i appreciate them. its easier to live in peace then to fight about the differences. just think how boring the world would be if every one looked,talked,acted, and thought just like we did. if that was the case we would not need humane contact at all. conflect does not mean one is right and one is wrong it just means there is more then one way to handle the proplem. just because your way was not the best way does not mean you lost the conflect it means it wasnt the best way to handle the conflect.

Answer 2

If you are having an argument with someone who takes this tactic, it is like them saying your feelings do not matter to me. It makes whatever you are feeling invalid just because it is not love/peace/pretending that it did not happen. Besides, the people that usually preech this are the ones that are wrong & take an air arrogance along with the high ground.

Answer 3

I am one of those that gets angry when people mention this tactic to dispute resolution. I become angry because this is the equivalent of saying, "Let's change the rules of the game, so everyone can win!"

Human nature includes hate, passion, jealousy, greed, envy, etc. We cannot change these aspects of ourselves, we can only try to stop their manifestations in our actions. By nature, people seek conflict, both as a way to bring meaning to their lives and as a way of improving themselves. Whenever there is conflict, there will be difference.

I, like those you mention, feel that saying, "Can't we all just get along?" does nothing to get from Point A (our world) to Point B (a utopia) because all of humanity will never just decide to get along: even if it wanted to, there would be one guy that stomps all over everyone and pulls a Hitler.

My reaction to those that say this is similar to, "Well, duh, you're talking about working through differences, which is what everyone always does to solve conflicts. But -how- do you resolve conflicts?"

Saying that everyone should get along is not a solution, it's a goal. A solution requires filling in each step along the path to that goal.

Answer 4

I will have to agree with Kevin B. It's nature.