i need help! i want to be popular to make new friends.
2006-11-09 08:51:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
making new friends is a good thing, but being popular is not, you don't have real friends they are all fake, and then trash you behind your back!!! seek good friends, not the popular kids!
2006-11-09 08:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by lily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about being "popular". Find things that you love to do, join a club or a sports team and meet people with similar interests that way. Be nice to people. Share what you have but don't try to buy your friends. Speak up for yourself, but don't hold grudges. Give encouragement but don't gush all the time. Take pride in your own accomplishments, too. Don't bad mouth, snub or insult others... that just wreaks of low self esteem. People who are confident are also relaxed, kind and open. Do things that make YOU happy and your happy glow will attract others to you. Don't try too hard and have fun! People only really remember how others make them feel so it's the bullies and the most encouraging of friends that are remembered the most over time. Be a good strong friend and you will be remembered for how good you made your friends feel.
2006-11-09 17:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by kim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are popular when you have friends... not to get friends. So, what you do is be nice to everyone... even if they aren't the coolest people, you should act nice~ joke around... then you will be cool to them. I am an out going person, and all I did in school was befriend everyone! The rockers, the rappers, the cheerleaders and even some nerds. Before I knew it, I was popular because I was just nice to all kinds of people. When it comes time for them to vote for you to do something, you will succeed because you don't just have one group of friends, but you have so many! Go for it... and good luck!!
2006-11-09 17:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Prettyeyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most popular people don't feel that they are popular.
Think of what you are looking for in a friend. Do you have those attributes?
I am assuming that you either 1) Don't have any friends, or 2) Don't like the friends you have.
In either case, first be yourself, believe in yourself. People tend to gravitate towards people that are comfortable with themselves and care about them. If you want to change your friends start to distance yourself slowly (unless they are bad people), and let them see the changes in you. You may find out that they are not happy with the relationship or their surroundings either and will stay friends as you grow.
2006-11-09 17:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't work to be popular.
It just happens.
There is nothing wrong with being normal. Having some popular friends, some normal friends, some odd seeming friends, its all good.
No one is going to turn around and say LOOK AT THAT NORMAL FREAK!
Plus, when your just a regular person, you can defend your image much better by not being branded by stereotypes.
Just be yourself and everything will work out.
2006-11-09 16:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by lecarz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!....breathe...and now take a deep breath...relax
1. Practice this....every time you pass a mirror...smile...then a big smile...then laugh at yourself....yes even in the bathroom at school.
2. Others are attracted to people who smile.
3. sometimes just say hi, and smile at someone you never smiled at before this.
4. Look inside...make a list of the attributes in others that you admire.....now see how you have some of those qualities.
5. Remember you want quality friends....now just people around who may be ....not so good for you...just to have people around.
6. If you want quality people, be a quality friend....and don't forget to smile at people that you normally don't.....and remember quality comes from the inside, not just how people look, except if they smile back......and this works!
7. Make a list of all the things you want to do with your life, where you want to travel and as you accomplish some of these, cross them off your list. This momentum will make you feel better about yourself...and that will cause you to be happier...and smile more.
May GOD bless all of your dreams for quality people and quality circumstances in your life...and if you don't feel close to GOD, who moved?
2006-11-09 17:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant just be popular..... a popular person is a person whoes been recoganized for doing dramatic things or being part of a sports team. O and popular people are conceted so you dont wanna be one its best to be a intermediate with a normal amount of buddies :)
2006-11-09 16:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by andrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have to be popular to make new friends...those aren't the friends you want! friends are people who will like you no matter what. trust me...I was one of the "popular" girls, it doesn't get you far!
2006-11-09 16:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be more outgoing and hang ot with the right people. Just remember, there's no real popularity after middle school, and even then, it's barely there.
2006-11-09 16:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by xdannifenx 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u shouldnt worry so much about being popular... cause most of those people you are trying to impress arent worth a second of your time... just be yourself... have people like and love you for who you are... cause all popularity does is bite you in the butt... trust me... u wont be happy if you always try to be what everyone else wants you to be
2006-11-09 16:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sun ☼Shine☼ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋