What is better :to live in the poor country where your family and all your friends are, or in the country where u don`t have nothing except better life(money), sucsess and a person who loves you but you don`t love him?
2006-11-09 08:31:33 · 17 answers · asked by Masha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
.........you missin home girly?
"Maria"....I assume your latin....and with the comparison your asking us, I'm also assuming that you just moved to America and that your homesick. Your questioning whether or not you moved here for the right reasons.
Why did you move here anyway? Was it out of curiosity? Was it really for a better life (Financially)?
When you make major decisions, often you give up one thing to pursue another. Remember that.
You can never REPLACE what you've left at home, but if you look hard enough, there are things around you that will make you feel better about you moving here.
Try not to compare the two areas......look for what is attractive to you here. Of course you'll miss home. Theres nothing like it in the world.....literally. But if you were serious about moving here, and really want to stay....you must be able to adapt to your new surroundings and find what it is that you like here. Otherwise......your really not here are you? Your still living at home.
Gudluk w/ getting better....
2006-11-09 08:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, just to reiterate... you've described two scenarios for consideration:
(1) what you call a "poor" country with friends and family that you're obviously fond of; and
(2) a country "where you don't have nothing" except a better life(money), success and a person who loves you but you don't love him.
I think this is a really interesting question, but that you have already answered it in your own question. I guess from the out-set your considering the first scenario to be a situation of material poverty and second scenario of material abundance.
However, although you describe the first scenario as being in a "poor" country, you seem to relate this scenario to having friend and family that you care about around you. In this sense, I would consider this to be the richest scenario of the two.
With the second scenario you mention all the material things you would have, however you, youself, admit that it is "where u don't have nothing", therefore that illusion of abundance is obviously just that - an illusion. And for goodness sake, while it may be flattering to have someone love you, it certainly won't be fullfilling long-term if those feelings are not returned.
A great saying comes to mind here which you may find relevant, and that is: "All that glitters is not gold"
You're obviously still slightly confused, but to me it sounds like you've already made your decision.
Good luck with whichever path you choose to follow!
2006-11-09 22:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the life with money if he is a good man and loves you, you may be able to learn to love him he will take care of you and you may be able to give some back to your family, you will make new friends in another country and if it does not work out you you will get a big pay out from the divorce if he is indeed that rich!!
2006-11-09 08:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Maria W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay in the poor country. Family is extremely important and so is your happiness. You would definitely not be 'successful' if you were with a man who you don't love just because of the money.
2006-11-09 08:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose the poor country and my happiness any day of the week and twice on Sunday. Happiness is important. If you are unhappy and not in love, then what are you doing with them? Sure it's nice to have a better life, but what good is it without your family and friends? Good luck with your decision.
2006-11-09 08:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The poor country with the people who love you and who you love.
2006-11-09 08:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live in a poor country where ur family and friends are- it would be a problem to be with someone u dont love- friends and family are wayyyyyy more important that money
2006-11-09 08:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by cayla_152 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this better life depends on the person you don't love - it's better in the country where your family and friends are, but if you're successful and independant - the country where you have better life is better
2006-11-09 08:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that only you could answer this. Basically though, it would depend on what you want out of your life and if you have certain dreams or not. And whether you will find all that in the first or second option.
2006-11-09 08:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
family n friends poor county y be rich and miserable money cant buy happiness
2006-11-09 08:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋