Ex dumped me a month ago. She is currently going through therapy cause her dad died 4 months ago and she has very low self esteem. When she broke up with me she asked me not to hate her and that the timing of everything sucked because of her cause she tought we had really good potential. She said she wanted to be friends. And I want to be friends with her because I do care about her well being and hope she is okay, but at the same time I know I need to keep some distance so that I can have time to get over her and act as a true friend to her, you know so I don have any hidden intentions. So how often should I contact her? She sent me an email today asking me how I am and sawying that she hopes things are well for me. She then said to drop her a line whenever? So I did not reply immediately to the email cause I think that may look like I am not getting over her, but maybe I'll email her next week? Good idea, and how much space should I give her? Thanks!
2006-11-09 08:30:57 · 5 answers · asked by Clrcut27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will have to follow your heart. She is going through a big change in her life without her dad. A man in her life, other than her dad may be a small problem. I believe she dropped you a line because she truly wants to be friends. Be understanding to her needs at this time and she just may turn around in a few months time. I would not reply immediately, but would not wait until next week. She just may know how much you check your email by your past Internet actions. Let her know you are still thinking about her and praying for her. Show her a soft side and let her make the necessary moves at her pace. Good Luck!
2006-11-09 09:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would use the 3 day rule. In situations like this, you get back to her on the 3rd day. When you initiate the call, only do so once every one to two weeks. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Plus it doesn't make you look desperate, even if you REALLY want to be back with her.
2006-11-09 16:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by p2of9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and kind. Sounds like she does care.
2006-11-09 16:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and give her space.
2006-11-09 16:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2006-11-09 16:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋