Question to men and women...would you get into another relationship with someone if you are separated?

Question

I just want to know what everybody thinks about that. Personally I think its stupid. How can you move on with your life with a new bf/gf and still be married to someone else?

Answer 1

I am in this situation now. we have been seperated for about 3.5 months and the divorce will be final in March but since then we have gone on two "dates". Do we know how this will all end? How can we? We do know that until March we are still "married" and the waiting period is to be absolutely sure that this is what the couple wants. Why confuse the issue by adding other ppl to the mix. We have started seeing a counselr and even if we do end up divorcing we both know we will always love each other and will always be a part of each other's lives no matter how small.

Answer 2

I don't know about a relationship, I guess it depends on how you define relationship. My husband and I recently seperated, and I'm involved with someone now, but I wouldn't call it a relationship. We're just friends with benefits. I've been with my husband for almost 7 years and I'm only 25. We had a rough marriage and I'm glad we're separted, but as far as getting into another relationship, I don't think that I would. After experiencing what I did at such an early age, I'm not interested in going that far again. Even after my husband and I divorce I still won't get into anything too serious, because it isn't worth it. I will just have 'friends' for the rest of my life.

Answer 3

If you know for sure that you are going through with a divorce, then move on. In my state, you have to be separated for a year before the divorce can be final. Surely you don't think someone should wait a year. After you've already wasted years of your life on the wrong person, there's no need to wait anymore. I was divorced in my mind and heart the day I moved out.

Answer 4

I did! And so did my fiancee! Usually when a married couple is seperated, it's just one step short of being divorced. A lot of states require a seperation period before the actual divorce proceedings can get moving, so it's pretty much the start of the divorce. I am now divorced and planning on getting married as soon as the fiancee's divorce gets finalized. Sounds a bit silly, I know, but why should minor technicalaties (such as a divorce not being completely finalized as of yet) get in the way of happiness?

Answer 5

In my opinion, being separated is as good as the relationship being over, minus the legal papers. So, on that note, I think starting a new life asap is the right thing to do - even if your county clerk hasn't filed the divorce papers yet. Why wait? If you know it is over with your spouse, waiting around and drudging in your depression and misery over a failed marriage isn't going to help any, and it isn't healthy. I know, I have been through it. Getting out there asap is not a bad thing at all. When exactly would be the "right" time for a fresh and new start? Ther never is a "right" time. The time is now.

Answer 6

I agree. It's like creating one mess before you clean up the one you left behind.

The end of any relationship can leave one feeling vulnerable, and I think many people rush into new relationships for that reason. They think it validates that they're still desirable and attractive even though they may no longer be to their former spouse / significant other. There should be a cooling off period; you should get involved because you are into the person, not just trying to make yourself feel better at someone else's expense.

Answer 7

i think you should wait this is y... when your married you take on what is called a role even if you dont know you have done that in my case i am married to an alcoholic and i have taken on the role of loving him and be the wife of an A. so i would leave him and date someone else rite away chances are that i am so comfortable being with an A that that is what i will choose again so i say wait for awhile let yourself heal first

Answer 8

i've got been divorced 15 years and in basic terms had 3 relationships in all that element and have been thoroughly on my own and celibate for the final 4 years so not ALL adult males do yet sure it gets incredibly lonely yet I truthfully have had back surgical procedures and draw incapacity so i won't be able to artwork,for this reason I truthfully have easily not something to furnish a woman because of the fact the main needed situation to a girl is protection.solid success.

Answer 9

I can answer this question. My guy told me that he and his wife were done, no chance they were going to get back together. She was living in another country with their child and there was no way he was ever going back to her, EVER! I believed that with all my heart. I heard this for 2 years. Well lets put it this way...Not only is he living with his wife and child now but I paid for him to move all of his stuff half across the world with promises that he was going to move into his own place and then I would come over there. My situation is the perfect example of why you should not get involved with anyone while they are seperated. If you are not convinced enough, email me and I will tell you more of the horror story I lived because of this.

Answer 10

Personally I would officially end the marriage FIRST before jumping into another relationship. It will save a lot of problems and complications down the line. I agree with u.