How u get over being shy all time????

Question

I am in 6 grade and have MAJOR crush on this boy at my church i have for like a whole year now, he look at me and talk 2 me sometimes but im waaaay shy around boys so i can barely say hi to him even then i get so depresed at home i feel like crying! How do i not be so shy all the time? Does anyone get over being this way???? Help please!!!!

Answer 1

I am...30-something and I used to be very shy as a kid and now I'm the complete opposite! If you are a churchgoer you must have heard a thing or two about faith. You have to remember the next time the boy is smiling at you or talking to you he is probably nervous too. And the best part of the situtaion you describe is that he is already noticing you so it's not like you have to worry that he is going to ignore you or be mean, he already knows you are a nice girl and that you look friendly. Don't think he is better than you, know that he is your peer with insecurities of his own. I bet if you started talking to him and you said I can't believe you are so easygoing, I was so shy and afraid to speak to you before, he will say you're crazy why be afraid of me? My best advice, I can only tell you to imagine the worst case scenario--that he goes UGH why are you talking to me? and walks away. Then you shake it off and say to yourself WOW what a jerk, and I was getting myself all worked up to just talk to that loser?? And the best case--he says HEY [Tia] you're pretty cool, you should hang with me more often! You think to yourself, how silly, I was getting myself all worked up to just talk to him, he's awesome and friendly! If you approach everything you are afraid of first imagining the worst case scenario, I guarantee that you will find the worst case isn't exactly the end of the world, and the best case scenario is a) exponentially more likely and b) worth taking the chance!
Good luck, be strong, and have faith!

Answer 2

I used to be very shy too, but I think it was due to lack of self esteem. As I've gotten older, I still have some shyness, but not that much. Just try to picture what it is that makes you feel shy and try to figure out why. I'm sure you're a great person, and this guy likes you. Just don't worry so much and relax.

Answer 3

Aren'y you a man? Um I wager it really works greater for men, however ladies who're, are customarily left by myself. The equal factor maybe stated for women too outgoing. Of path that would practice to men too.

Answer 4

Observe him and approach him in a way that he would like it's either yes or no trying beats anything if you fail you made an attempt then someone else will notice u.

Answer 5

u ignore it...u force ur self to do something - even if u embarass urself - u'll get over it and b proud bcuz u overcomed ur shyness

try or itll never workk

alsoo ... u hav 2 hav the freind that r very outgoing, or u just hav to become outgoing and make fun of urself...i make fun of miself!!! thats how u laugh!!! and then u talk!!

Answer 6

ok . so u like this guy alot. if you wanna feel more comfartable with him start talking to other guys that you know.like at school in your neighborhood. try making lots of guyfriends that will make u feel more comfartable talking to guys and then try talking to this guy more . if that doesnt work try peptalking yourself before u see him (not aloud that could lead to embarrassing quistions lol ) well hope u lik my answer

Answer 7

two years ago when i was your age i was very shy but as i got older it went away well most of it so in a year or two you should be better well God bless you.

Answer 8

just talk to him!! im very shy too but when i wanted to talk to my crush(now my boyfriend) i forced myself to say something. i just let my lips say what they wanted and i asked him out. good luck

Answer 9

im really shy but i just pretend like im not and i just go for it. who cares if u say something dumb just dont let it get to u. act confident and it will come to u.