Alrite, so I am a 19 year old male, 2nd year of uni. Grades are now in the 70's was a 90's student.
Anywho, I started dating my friend of 12 years. I am of indian decent so keep it in mind when you think this is totally weak. She is asian.
We were fooling around, I was getting a handjob and my mom wallked in. Ofcourse she flipped..... She started saying how she would tell my gf's parents. Her parents prolly know we are going out but no one has said anything to each other about it. She isn't allowed to date either. BTW, she is 19 also.
Now i told them I would do anything from them telling her rentz, mainly cuz it isn't their business. But they still have a indian thing on me that I am indian and i am under their control etc etc.
I have no clue twhat to do
Any suggestions?
2006-11-09 08:27:44 · 21 answers · asked by mommo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
your over 18, noone controls you but yourself, if they try to control you, call their bluff and move out on your own
2006-11-09 08:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your nationality's has do with anything here? Do both sets of parents forbid the mix? That might be a problem, that YOU TWO would have to decide upon. Other than that, you two are 19 years old! If your not paying some kind of rent, to consider your mom's house still part of your home, I guess you'll have to move, or get a hotel when you want to have sex. Parents just want to keep "setting an example", even when you become an adult. They went through the same dang thing with their folks. it's just the "thing" to do. When in reality, she knows your old enough to be doing what ever you want, including having sex!! Just try to understand, it's part of a parent showing love..
2006-11-09 09:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your live under your parents roof so they do have some control over you. If you feel strongly about this person and you think she feels strongly about you and I think she does then maybe the two of you can get a place together. Either way, it is probably time for you to move out on your own. You are the age of majority, it is time you get your own place, move in with this woman friend of yours or some guy friends of yours. Ultimately, you need to take a stand as an adult and your rentz need to cut the umbilical cord. Make sure you practice safe sex. Good luck!
2006-11-09 18:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Todd Maz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both 19. It's none of your parents' business.
Unfortunately, they're going to make it their business as long as you live at home.
Since you guys are dating now, maybe you should get jobs and move in together. Find an apartment. Your parents aren't going to stop barging in until you move out and show them that you're an adult. Well, they'll still be nosy then, but you'll have your own place and they won't be able to walk in on things like that.
It doesn't matter that you're Indian. If you don't want to be controlled by them, you don't have to. That's the law. Move out.
2006-11-09 08:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so the both of you are concenting adults so whats the problem, right? Well I come from a strict background myself, so I know what you and you gf are going through. Maybe try to fool around when your not at your parents house. Or, next time lock your door. Your parents should not get involved, especially when you and your gf are over 18.
2006-11-09 08:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
merely attempt to stay cool round her. Dont get pissy together with her, or any **** like that. If she smarts off. merely smile and forget approximately it. in case you reallly love the guy. it doesnt depend what anybody thinks. Oh and for the remark approximately having an open relationship which includes your mom. Thats very stable! dont enable any of those fools at right here inform you distinctive. i think of its super that your mom is conscious the hormones extra then some mothers. Hell if My mom could've caught me decrease back then.. properly of direction i could nevertheless be grounded... at age 21. haha So regardless, dont pay attention to a number of those previous timers. do what ay sense is desirable on your heart. and each little thing ought to flow properly
2016-12-14 04:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by vogt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you should have been in a more private place. Your mother needs to apologize for interupting a private moment and not excusing herself so you and your gf could compose your self and become presentable. 19 you are close enough to adult hood to assert some independence. If you are financially dependent on your parents and living at home then you are stuck you will have to put up with the rules and interuptions.
2006-11-09 08:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Geo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HEy guys, this id mommo using a friends account.
The thing is that I have the plans setup to move out etc etc, The problem is that they mite tell her parents and my girlfriend is a family girl, if her parents find out they will still love her but things are gonna be different and she doesn't want that.
Her parents are alot better then mine and I want to make sure I don't ruin her relationship with her parents.
What can i do about that?
2006-11-09 09:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by R M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are living under their roof, they DO have the right to say something - it is their home! If you want privacy -- get off your butt, get a job and move out! Maybe your girlfriend can also get a job and pay 1/2 the expenses.
2006-11-09 08:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by GP 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your both 19 and you're not allowed to fool around? O_o Wierd! Get your own place and live with your gf?
2006-11-09 08:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by And For A Moment I Am Happy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go get a job and get your own place. As long as you're living under your parents roof they will have a certain amount of control over you.
2006-11-09 08:45:15 · answer #11 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋