and i still feels he still cheating on me
2006-11-09 08:27:02 · 18 answers · asked by an_apple_that_was hurt_reallybad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It isn't true just because someone cheats it doesn't mean that they never loved you. Its very complicated. I think that there are some cases where they do love you but need more I suppose. It is my understanding that as a generality people cheat because they are unhappy with themselves and have low self esteem, are unhappy in a relationship, or felt that someone else had something they ultimately wanted.
I think that its very hard to recover from something like that and I don't think that I could ever forgive my spouse for cheating. No matter what my view points are I don't think anything justifies cheating but that's just me. If you feel you are able to move on and start rebuilding your marriage again that's great.
Be More careful this time look for clues and since the trust is so shattered I believe you should be a snoop and a spy for a little while. At least until you feel that you can start to trust him again which could be months or years. I don't know how people forgive something like that I guess I just don't understand.
2006-11-09 08:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never heard that line before( if he cheats he doesn't love you) I think that is falsely marked. A man cheats when he feels that he isn't getting what he needs out the relationship not necessary meaning he don't love you just not satisfied. It easy for someone to say leave him but the difference with them and you is marriage I find thatto be little especially when he must be a good man because you married him. Although I think clearly that no one should be cheated on on abused or lied to etc. I feel that you should sit down and ask him why he didi it and see if it can be worked out that way go from there. If all can be forgotten just be more open and give your man what he needs.
Get answers first.
2006-11-09 08:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by dejohn m 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
a man that cheats doesn't love himself, or u. maybe he once loved u, but when someone else comes into the marriage, his focus is on her, and not u anymore, unfair as it is, it happens alot. personally it is hard to take back someone who has cheated, sometimes the hurt never heals, sometimes we can never feel safe with that person again. usually it's just best to move on and find a new love, and a new life. when betrayal is the reason for the marriage problem, it's just not that easy to get the trust back, really depends on his response once u confront him, depends if he is remorseful, and acknowledges what he did. maybe they loved us once, but only conditionally, once the problems started, as problems always come, because there is no perfect marriage, he just didn't want to work on them, so he cheated instead. cheating happens when they are looking to find someone new.
2006-11-09 12:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Someone that really loves you would NEVER cheat on you. I am sorry to say... this will hurt for a while but it will go away. You need to move on and not rush things... There is someone out there that will love you for you and would never consider cheating on you. Sorry... Good luck...
2006-11-09 08:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You deserve better. Get rid of him. Somewhere there is a man that will treat you right. Don't listen to people who say that all men cheat, or that it was your fault. Those are excuses that bad men use to treat women like crap. Not all men cheat. You just happened to get a bad one.
2006-11-09 08:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by p2of9 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello if he really loved you no he would not cheat, he is nasty and will always be nasty so go check yourself out at the Dr. to make sure you are OK (GYN TEST FOR ALL DISEASE) and if you think he is still cheating then you better let him go and find someone who loves you . love does not hurt and it does not mean for you to allow him to treat you this way. pull yourself together and get a back bone and love yourself and get rid of him before you get something you can't get rid of lol
2006-11-09 08:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't respect you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He may. Even if he does love you, you deserve better. Someone is out there who would love you and not cheat on you.
2006-11-09 08:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Beth T 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow sweetie, go with your gut feeling, there are certainly problems in your relationship what you have to decide is if you are going to stay with him and continue to let him treat you this way or take a stand- demand the truth and carry on with you life without him. Only you can determine which road you are going to take- Once a cheater.......
2006-11-09 08:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by witchway 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him first; and don't settle for vague answers..he owes you at least an explanation. Also let yourself be mad and hurt for a while..its healthy to get your feelings out..
I agree though ..if they cheat once..chances are they'll do it again
However if you really feel its worth saving, see if he would go to counseling with you
2006-11-09 08:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by sophia4470 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that people NEVER cheat if they really love their spouse.
Divorce him, and find a good man to love you!
Oh--and get a lawyer who will take him for every PENNY, to compensate for your tears & broken heart!
2006-11-09 08:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋