he is married but his wife knows all about me... they have basically no relationship anymore and he is going to divorce her soon... i am just curious to see what others think about this... i love him very much...
2006-11-09 08:18:00 · 35 answers · asked by Sun ☼Shine☼ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you talked to his wife? Are you certain she knows about you? Or does he just tell you she knows about you? What are you going to think when the two of you hook up (if it happens) and you find out he is cheating on you? Yep, he is cheating.
2006-11-09 08:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it feel like you are cheating if you need to ask the question then it is but I think that if you are married you should wait did she know about you from the start because if she didnt and then found out you could be the reason their relationship has broken down and if they have kids they will always see you as the home wreaker why cant people leave other marriages alone???? there are so many fish out there you are just probably too lazy to look around or you have low self esteem and probably think that you can not do any better find someone single who loves as much as you love him, go and pray for God to give you guidance
2006-11-09 08:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by Maria W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it is cheating, and you know that somewhere in your tummy and/or heart or you wouldn't be here asking... :)
I realize that you will do what you want regardless of what we say here, as it is human nature to do what feels good, rather than necessarily what is right...but I worry that if infact he DOES divorce her, which i highly doubt....and you continue your relationship with him that you will be back again down the road, but this time asking yahoo how to stop your man from cheating.
If this man truly respected you and understood how special you are, he wouldn't expect to cheat with you...he would have left his wife and divorced her BEFORE pursuing you. No man that is willing to cheat with you will EVER EVER EVER be able to truly love and respect you... And how could you ever truly respect a man who justified cheating WITH you?? As a woman can you really comprehend how this could NOT hurt his wife, no matter what the status of their relationship is??
Good luck...I hope you realize you are worth SO much more (as is his wife) and that there are plenty of SINGLE men out there that would be able to concentrate on JUST you.
2006-11-09 09:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Shakira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as society is concerned, you are in the clear. Popular consensus has reflected that if the other spouse knows and approves of there spouses other "relationship(s)", then it is OK. On a personal note, I think that you should take a small step back and examine your true feelings on this matter. While I am sure that you do indeed love him, I am not sure that you are OK with continuing the physical side of your relationship while he is still married. Do yourself a favor and take a good look into your heart, true love will not be lost at the lack of physical contact.
2006-11-09 08:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by dr.cocktail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she knows about you, and IF the divorce isn't final, and even if you love him..............it's CHEATING!!
If he runs right into your arms after the divorce, better keep a good eye on him...............once a cheat, always a cheat..........you could end up being the next wife that knows about the other girl.
2006-11-09 08:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to divorce his wife, and he still has a relationship with her.
Honey, that's the oldest lie in the cheater's book!
Break it off, or you will be known as a homewrecker forever.
Besides, some day he will cheat on YOU, because cheaters NEVER STOP CHEATING!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-09 08:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as far as the courts are concerned and from a legal stand point prior to a final decision on a divorce it is considered adultery and can be used for the purpose of establishing credibility, alimony, child custody, property and marital debt acquisition. If you two are meant to be together then I would think He's worth waiting for.
2006-11-09 08:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very disrespectful of you to continue seeing this guy while he is married, when he is divorced it is one thing, but until then I would stop seeing him, and I doubt that his wife knows about you, but if she does and stays with him then she has no respect for herself.
2006-11-09 08:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is cheating, and that is exactly how the courts will see it, and if there is any kids, alimony involved, it will make a very big difference. and dont think for one minute, that you can change him. a tiger cant change his stripes. if hes done it in the past, hell do it in the future. know what youre getting yourself into, and be ready for a great let down. And I wont say i told you so in the furture when you write back asking if we think hes cheating on you. Open your eyes!!!!!!
2006-11-09 08:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by tsd574 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you want to know? sounds to me like u have everything planned out...but if u r asking if u loving him and all right now is cheating,yes i would say it is because theya re't divorced untill they're divorced....if i were u i would back off....maby u r jus distracting him....guys like women,wheather they r married or not-maby they could have a relatoinship left if u weren't around so watch urself,why don't u try falling love with single men anyway?
2006-11-09 08:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by greenismylife.songismyworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋