my obgyn said they wont do anything right now she doesnt know how long it will take untill bleeding stops she is only giving me 2 wk off from work 18 will be 2 weeks. doesnt want to perform D&C im traveling dec 1st week 18 hrs flight dont know how i can handle cramping in the flight anyone help me how long it will take for me to recover from pain ?
I REALLY NEED YOU GUYS HELP IM VERY DEPRESSED!!!
2006-11-09 08:06:31 · 17 answers · asked by ItSmE 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Okay, I"m so sorry you're having such a hard time. Shame on your doctor for not answering all your questions. You must feel like nobody cares...well, please know you are precious and cared for.
Since you were only 7 weeks along (if I read you correctly) the doctor probably feels like it is less serious, and not too much different than a normal menstrual period. She probably sees many other miscarriages and has forgotten how new and traumatic this is for you. I"m so sorry.
Call her office back and ask to talk to her nurse-you'll get more answers from the nurse, and quicker. You can ask the nurse to check with the doctor about traveling etc. Meanwhile, be alert for any signs of complications-fever, an increase in bleeding, a foul odor with discharges, an increase in pain. Ask the nurse what else to watch for and what would indicate a need for a return visit to the doctor. Find out if it is safe to have sex yet. Find out if you can take tylenol or ibuprofen for pain-tell them whatever other meds and vitamins you're taking.
A D&C is probably not necessary unless there are complications. Your doctor would do one if she felt it necessary, but she should have explained the process to you more carefully. You deserve more consideration and more explanations at the very least. So, again, call the office back and politely but firmly request your questions be answered. She is giving you two weeks probably kind of a standard length of time off for most women in similar situations. If your pain and bleeding last longer than that it's definitely time for a recheck. You may want to consider a second opinion, and find a doctor more in tune with you.
Best wishes, and a hug,
cryllie
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2006-11-09 08:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cramping should be over in a few days. It doesnt last long. Its like having a very long, heavy period. I miscarried at the same time, about 7-8 weeks along.
I did not have a D&C, so long as you're bleeding clean, and she is able to confirm in a follow up appointment (you will have one in two weeks before you go on your trip) that everything is fine, you have nothing to worry about.
A lot of times getting a D&C can really mess you up, and repeat proceedures can cause severe pH imbalances and even scarring.
I did have a few periods with some brown discharge for a few cycles, but there was always clean blood that followed, a sign that the cleaning process is working.
Wear pads, not tampons for a while, keep them changed. Take two aleve every 8 hours for a while, and use heat pads on your belly.
You will be okay. Iam also pregnant again, and due in about 11 weeks, it only took me about 6 months to get pregnant again after that miscarriage (we werent really trying... or not trying). Your body really is able to cleanse itself out. By 7 weeks the embryo is the size of a grain of rice, and the lining of the uterus is barely starting to thicken. Its just like a normal heavy period.
2006-11-09 08:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I miscarried at 7 weeks and did not have a D&C. The baby is so small at 7 weeks, that it's barely noticed and is passed out as a regular period. I never got time off of work and I bled for about two weeks.
I went on to another pregnancy and have a 5 month old girl. Your doctor is doing what's best by not intervening and causing your body more trauma by doing a D&C.
Trust your doctor. At the most, ask her to perform an ultrasound in two weeks to ensure that your uterus is empty.
2006-11-09 08:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jocelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to a different doctor. I have NEVER known any women who miscarried and they did not preform a D&C. My mother miscarried 6 times, my friend 1, my sister 1, and two cousins both did 1 and every single time they did a D&C. My mom told me it was because if you are still young enough to concieve more, they told her the left over tissue could cause future miscarriages or infertility. I don't think you would want to risk either. Get a second opinion, asap. Good Luck! P.S. Sorry about everything. I don't understand how you feel because I have never been there, but I can't imagine it's easy. God Bless
2006-11-09 08:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about your loss, I guess I'd feel that way too. It's perfectly safe what your dr suggested. At 7 weeks baby was so little that all the stuff will pass thru with no trouble. If you are flying take some strenght tylenol before boarding so you prevent/lower the pain while flying. You'll recover soon from pain. Just wait 6 months until you try to get pg again so that your body recovers properly. Don't be depress, I'm sure next time everything will be ok...find support on your partner and family and think that somethings just aren't meant to be. Maybe your little one was so special God needed him to be an angel. You'll have a baby next time. Best wishes honey.
2006-11-09 08:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From my personal experience the cramping only lasted a couple of days, but the bleeding was off and on for about 3 weeks. My doctor did not perform a D&C, my body was doing it naturally besides I was only about 3 weeks along. Emotionally it is very hard & depressing. Your body will heal from it and next thing you know you'll be ready to become pregnant again.
2006-11-09 09:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by cihuatl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a second opinion. I is your right .And if your doctor has a problem with that then he or she isn't a very good doctor. You wouldn't believe how much damage could be done by not getting the proper after care for something like this. I know there are instances when a dnc is not needed like in cases of heavy bleeding. I didn't need one when I miss carried but I almost bled to death on my bathroom floor. My doctor said that I had passed everything naturally and didn't need one but he also ran test before making this descion. He used one of the internal sonogram mechines that detect for tubel pregancy.
2006-11-09 08:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly advise you to go to another doctor. Many years ago I had a miscarriage at about eight weeks. The doctor told me the same thing. About six months later I was pregnant again and again I miscarried. It turned out that I almost died. I went to the E.R. this time as I was feeling terribly ill. I was admitted pronto as tests confirmed that I was suffering from septicemia. When they performed a D&C they found what caused the septicemia and the second miscarriage. It was necrotic remains that were still in my uterus from the first time I miscarried. I was in hospital for ten days on an antibiotic drip. So please go to another doctor pronto! Good luck to you I wish you well!
2006-11-09 08:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Janine E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to a different dr then. i miscarried once and they insisted on doing a D&C. have u called your local hospital? Sometimes your body will heal on its own but why take the risk of getting an infection. i would seek a second opinion if i were you. it took about two weeks for the pain to go away after i had my miscarriage but i also didn't follow the dr's orders by staying in bed. good luck
2006-11-09 08:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by Amber G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am so sorry but you can always try again, and I had a friend that was just 5 weeks and they done a D&C. I would get a second opinion that doesnt sound safe or healthy to me.
2006-11-09 10:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋