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Me and my wife are getting a divorce.She been living with her
parents for the pass 2 months. She has a boyfriend and bring them around our kids. She screams at the kids for telling on her
I ask her once before not to bring the kids around him until we get a divorce. If you contince, don't get mad at the kids for telling your dirt.She tell the kids do they want a other bother or sister from me or an other man.Their ages are 6 and 4 years old.

Answer 1

Get a stipulation in your custody agreement that she not have him around the children.

Answer 2

She is definitely wrong by bringing another man around your kids right now. She is being quite selfish and not thinking of how this might affect them. And i can't believe she is asking them if they want a brother or sister from you or the other guy. That is an awful question to lay on the shoulders of those children. You need to have a serious heart to heart talk with her and let her know that if she doesn't stop this childish behavior that you will need to take steps in order to protect your children and then carry through with it.....good luck

Answer 3

She shouldn't be bringing another man around so soon. this type of thing really confuses young children. She needs to be less selfish. She absoutely not talk to your children about another brother or sister, some things are kept from children for a valid reason. She sounds like she is younger than your kids. Good luck with her attitude.

Answer 4

She should be respecting your wishes and not getting mad at the children for speaking up; That's what kids do when they see something wrong. If she continues, just use it against her in court when you go. And she should NOT be putting those kids in a position where they have to choose who they want the father of their next sibling to be. She's mixing them in with her wrong doing and that's not right.

Answer 5

OMG no wonder you are getting a divorce. how immature of her. You need to tell her if she wants to date thats fine but to not expose your children to another person until she's serious if its going somewhere. the kids are confused enough with the separation let alone a new person in the mix. its unfortunate that shes acting so immature, try to distance yourself and good luck

Answer 6

Divorce is hard my parents got divorced when i was 5 and they would always bag on each other to me. so when i would visit my dad i would go home and not like my mom cause of what my dad would say. and i would go to my dads not liking him cause of what my mom would say. Now that i am older i know the real story and it doesn't even matter! so just try everything to keep your kids out of the middle... trust me be the bigger person and don't ever say anything bad about her in front of them no matter what!

Answer 7

If they are biologically your's, then I would talk to your lawyer. He may be able to help you in that situation! Good luck. My parents are divorced, and I HATED going around my mother's new husband. I understand how your kids feel. I used to tell my mother's dirt to my dad all of the time to get her in trouble. If she keeps this up, they probably won't talk to her when they are older....what happened in my situation.

Answer 8

She should not be bringing men around your children until she is certain she knows they are on the up and up. I don't want to scare you but it has been known that men prey on single women to "get to their children"! You make sure under no circumstances should your children meet her dates! Get a lawyer if you must but your children are NUMBER ONE PRIORITY!!!

Answer 9

that not kool little kids alway tell everything she shouldnt yell at them
ask your kids if they like there moms new boyfriend and if they dont that might be the reason that they tell on her
if they dont like there moms new boyfriend you your kids and you x all need to sit down and talk about it

Answer 10

well i think this si a tough situations divorces can get messy but make sure your kids are happy through whatever happens!!!