I can't stand it. He whines like a little girl about how he hates work and was meant to be rich - all the time. Sure, most people feel that way but for some reason his whining is a complete turn off and makes me view him as a lazy and not very manly. Am I wrong to feel this way?? He has a nice paying desk job it's not like he is out busting his butt doing physical labor. I think him being a spoiled only child has made him this way and he doesn't even know what real work is.
Maybe I'm just used to hard working men..what do you think??
2006-11-09 07:53:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel your pain. I got a whiner myself, and we have a child together. I don't think you are wrong with your feelings, because I am in agreeance. When he starts whining about how he hates the job, do what I do, ask," what are you doing then to change that situation?" That usually shuts him up. The way I see it is life is too short to be miserable and if you have a job that you got to whine and complain about everyday, it's simple, QUIT, preferably not before you find something better, but why stay? Even if they paying you a lot, it ain't worth the stress, or dying from a heart attack. Every situation is different, and I think everybody has a right to complain, but what good is complaining if you not trying to better or change the situation. It is really annoying, especially when you know what a hard working MAN is and should do. It helps you to see how a person would react under pressure, and shows a little bit about their character. He's not out doing back breaking construction, he not risking his life for others, and he ain't being worked for free. If he sits in a warm office and gets paid too he has no cause for complain and if it's that bad, QUIT. Tell him that. People nowdays are so spoiled and instead of counting their blessings, they count all the other stuff. Pay him no mind after hearing it long enough you learn to tune it out. Too much negativity will bring your spirit down, and I can't afford to have that happen, and neither can you. His whining might begin to rub off on you. I am most afraid of our son seeing his behavior and thinking it is ever acceptable to just whine when he doesn't get what he wants. A whining man is not sexy, or a good example for a child to follow.
2006-11-09 08:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg ! I literally have this issue too! I had a pretty hard life growing up like single mom she was on welfare while in school so we didn't have much . I worked for everything I got and never had the luxury of my parents having a huge house and money. He has a job that pays really well but now he's on a project that isn't as good and he has to get trained for a few months in an office and before he didn't go to an office ever so this is a huge deal. All he does is whine everyday all day about what bull it is like your sitting there doing nothing in a heated or ac office . It makes me so mad that he's so ungrateful. It blows my mind and I can't take it . I want a man a man to man up and just accept the job and get it done . I don't know what to do anymore but it's wearing on me . I need a man not a child to coddle for the dumbest **** .
2015-11-20 05:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by LeeAnnStar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about role reversal! I listen to my wife bi*&& and moan about her work for at least an hour each day, and she also has a cake job with the government, making tons of money.
Your husband does seem like a spoiled brat though. He sounds like he thinks he's entitled to something and priviledged in some way. Ask him if you guys lost everything you have, all possessions, jobs, etc. and only had each other, what would be important to him? How would he act? What would he be thankful for. His answer will tell you if you should run for the hills or not.
2006-11-09 07:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by TrainerMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something about a hard working man who's not afraid to get his hands dirty that is a big turn on.......I agree he sounds like a spoiled wimp whining about his job. That would be a huge turn off for me regardless of his income. I'd take a hard hat and muscles over that any day.
2006-11-09 08:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by T-Bone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you KINDLY mention to him in passing that you think that he would be alot hotter if he didn't complain about work, maybe he would stop. He may not realize how annoying it is (I'm sure he doesn't if you haven't told him.) He may just be in the habit now and has no reason to stop.
Acually........I have an idea for you.
Tell him you were watching a show on lifetime or reading a women's magazine and one of the top ten turn offs to women when it comes to their men was when they complained about work. And one of the top ten turn ons was when they didn't complain about their work. Then don't say anything else, see if he asks you if you feel the same way, and you can gently agree. If he doesn't ask, then just hope maybe that it made an impression on him. Good luck!
2006-11-09 07:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG my boyfriend is the same exact way. He complains and complains about hating work, why is he the only one who has to go to work and complains about everything about his job. I tell him look thats what you do, you grow up go to school and then get a job, thats what the rest of the world does and you have to do it too. Its people in other places who would be extremely happy to have the opportunity to make a fraction of what our making so suck it up and SHUTUP before i get you some cheese with that whine.
2006-11-09 07:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not wrong for feeling that way it would bug the he ll out of me too. I think I'd end up telling him if he's that miserable to find another job and if he doesn't that you don't want to hear it anymore. Then you might want to add in about it being a turn off and how that leads to less sex!
2006-11-09 08:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by MedicineWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to feel that way. Kick his a** out and find a real man who doesn't whine.
2006-11-09 07:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by harmony moon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems like your getting tired of him and cant find anything to bust on him about so for now that will do. you knew what he was about before you got together and you dealt with it then. now your getting tired and need a reason out. i got like that after being with boyfriends for a bout 7 months then was repulsed by their looks even though they were drop dead gorgeous in the beginning.
2006-11-09 08:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by tsd574 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bugs you because you probably don't complain and you probably work twice as hard then him. I agree I would like he was lazy also
LIKE MY MAMA ALWAYS SAID
LIFE AT FAIR
AND MONEY DOES NOT GROW ON TREES
You want a man to provide for you not whine about it.. ( i said that not mama )
2006-11-09 07:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋