Ok so why do women get rewared money for divorcing their husbands?

Question

My step-mother (******) gets half of my dads retirement. She didn't earn that, he had the Job 16 years before he met her.

If she got the house we had 10 years before we met her I'd burn it to the ground. When she wasn't home of course. She doesn't desrve anything from my Father.

Point taken Birddog, But I still can't stand to see her profit from being nothing to me and my dad

Answer 1

I know of an individual that was served a divorce from his wife. The wife is a VP at a Large Company and the Husband was a Laborer. She has the kids and he gets them during alternating holidays and weekends. The wife is paying the husband a great deal of alimony which include a portion of the benefits.

Every case is treated different. The courts try to do the fair thing for both parties. Often what both sides of a divorce usually see is that they are loosing what they had. Therefore they tend to bark at everything that takes what they had away.

If the individuals would have continually invested time with their family and treated everyone with respect they could have lived life. By barking at others you are only pushing them away.

Stop thinking about what you never had and get on with your life and hopefully your dad will realize that life is not about how much money you have or don't have.

The sooner you let it go, the sooner you will stop stressing over it.

Answer 2

It all depends on how you look at things. I think for the most part men get screwed. But I was one of those ex wives and when I went to my lawyer he just told me the laws. In my state they take the husbands salary minus the woman's salary and then the woman gets half of that as spousal support. My husband cheated on me and knocked up a woman....so to me...well he was paying for his mistake. But I signed the papers early. I hated to see him suffer forever.

I am remarried and I didn't get a prenup. Some would say that I don't work. But I do work...I keep the house clean from his 2 terrible twin boys. That is a job. He also doesn't need daycare since he has me. He has a lot more money since he married me and didn't have to pay for a babysitter anymore. So what am I worth? Would I not deserve anything if he were to end our marriage?

Answer 3

Well it depends on how long they were married, and of course he didn't get a prenup.

So he pretty much promied it all to her when they married , even if he didn't out right say that.

Also suppose it was your mother. why isn't she getting anything?

She earned something during the course of the marriage.

What do you think she earned?

Anything?

Pretend she was leaving your dad with nothing, then would the story be diffrent.

Hope you don't go starting any fired. :) Winkl wink

ahahahah

Cheer up, you can help your father with the great job your gonna have right.

He'll be ok and Karma its a B-

trust me. Just ask anyone.

Good luck

Answer 4

Your dad should have protected himself and had a prenuptial ageement. I have had the shoe on the other foot my ex who had not worked 33% of our marriage and had not worked a day since 1990 tried to get 1/2 my retirement. Which by law he is entitled too. We need to change the laws. But , he had forged my name on 6 notes against our home so I was let him know if he got my retirement I would take him back to court for forgery. I got to keep my retirement. It depends on the state on whether she get any part of the house. I will make sure no one will ever do what was done to me again. Protect yourself know matter how much you love someone. If you don't know one else will. We need to change the law . The person who is cheating should get nothing, except the clothes on their backs

Answer 5

Men can also recieve alimony payments. Some of the possible factors that bear on the amount and duration of the support are:

length of the marriage
time separated while still married
age of the parties at the time of the divorce
relative income of the parties
future financial prospects of the parties
health of the parties
fault in marital breakdown

Answer 6

Well, usually the men is the bread maker so if the wife has no money, then in a divorce settlement, the wife would get half.

See, that's why in a marriage, always sign a contract that indicates upon divorce, neither party can take away each other's asset. If she refuses, then you know she doesn't like you much now, right!??!?

Answer 7

Women often get money for past relationships of any type...
...and the government helps them...
That's why they are often very ready to get a divorce. Then they have a pension and can do who they want. ;-)
Makes one wonder why the government doesn't take care of workers at a company similarily, when they are dismissed after decades of service.
I guess that private individuals are just an easier target with less means to fight back.

Answer 8

I haven't figured out this one either. A friend of mine had worked 18 years before he met his now ex, and she gets half of his retirement too!! It isn't fair!

I'm a woman, and I divorced 3 times. Each divorce, I only took my kids.

The laws have to be updated and changed .

Answer 9

Just the way it is. My ex got the kids, the house, half of my retirement (which by the way I am putting off until I am forced to retire). I also had to sell the motor home and our third car. She got all of the proceeds from both. All I got was jack. I feel your dad's pain.

Answer 10

You sound bitter. Thats the law. Look at K-Fed and Britney. They have been married 2 years. Watch him walk away with a big chunk of change.