We have a very happy marriage, and communicate very well. I'm 30, he's 38, and he is less in the mood than I am, much of the time. I am certain he's not getting it anywhere else... We don't have it that often as it is. Is this common?
2006-11-09 07:36:51 · 31 answers · asked by drama4mama247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've heard about 1-2 times per week is average. That's my husband, usually. I can get him every 2 days if I play my cards right...but my sex drive is MUCH greater than his...I would never cheat on him, and he would never cheat on me...but sometimes regardless of how um...satsfying it is for me...I want more. So for some people it is stronger and for some people it is not strong at all...and that is normal.
2006-11-09 07:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are entering your prime and he has peaked, well at least he has by the averages. Then there are other things that can certainly effect the mans sex drive. Does he smoke? Does he drink much? Is he overweight? Does his diet contain a high amount of fats? Does he take a good vitamin supplement? If all these things are okay and in line, then maybe you need to put the chase back into your relationship. Nothing gets a man interested more than making him have to work for it or have to convince you. The challenge is just about as exciting to a man as the act itself, so don't make it too easy for him...
2006-11-09 07:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought it was uncommon but am finding out it really isn't. At first I took it personal and a form of rejection. Then realized he works more hours/more stressful job and gets less sleep than I.
You just have a higher sex drive. When people are stressed their sex drive is low. Think about if the situation were reversed.
Also, a woman is in her prime in her 30's and men at age 18 or so.
2006-11-09 07:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Aidge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat. I am 31 and my husband is 33. We have a really good marriage too, but we don't have sex as often as I would like! I think it's because women hit their peak at our age and men have theirs when they are younger. I have talked to my husband and shared with him that I thought something was wrong. He assured me that their wasn't and I believe him. He just doesn't want it as much as I do!! So in my opinion I would say it's normal!
2006-11-09 08:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is that often? I can tell you from experience that once a woman is in a relationship and comfortable they want it all the time. Every woman iv'e been in relationships with has been the same.(No Im not stroking my ego) just saying that sometimes...for a man...it's alot of work. One thing my girl does is massages me. Sometimes she uses other things if im too tired. At first it bothered me but now it's a turn on. Anyway try taking a trip to a cheap motel or something.
2006-11-09 07:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by humantouch_fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wierd isnt it? Men are supposed to be the horn dogs. The same thing is going on in my relationship. I am always up for some love making while my bf sometimes just isnt in the mood. There is nothing wrong with you or him. He is probably just stressed from work or other things going on in his life. Have you talked to him about it? Maybe if you tell him you miss being intimate more often he will try to satisfy your needs.
2006-11-09 07:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by georgiabelle87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly that quite has to suck for you does not it? i'm hoping you the two are actually not trapped in a marriage that your in basic terms staying in for the others sake. in case you have desires then don't be afraid to tell him. because of the fact it would already be obtrusive to him which you do and its not trouble-free to you that your not getting what you like from it, only reason he only does not experience like it. Its in contrast to your going to do it commonplace. only once you the two experience delicate in doing it. He expects issues to be a undeniable way, why cant he comprehend you anticipate it to be a undeniable thank you to?And as I see it the size which you the two have are choppy, so attempt to make him comprehend that by ability of going to a doctor and talk approximately what you're able to desire to get the relationship going back on aim. because of the fact who is familiar with it perhaps a fact that something could be incredibly incorrect and needs to verify to the inspiration of what's occurring because of the fact maximum adult males does not have a low intercourse force at a before age like that. i comprehend a doctor could be a sprint high priced, yet for marriage which you quite decide to final a existence time would be properly wroth it.
2016-10-21 13:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GODDDD!!!! I am 21 and my boyfriend is 22 and let me tell you! I feel like the guy in the relationship!! I am always begging for it!! hahaha. He is always like "I'm too tired" I know he's not getting it anywhere else too, but I dunno and plus woman in there 30's are at their prime so I think your hormones are just up there too!! Good luck I've tried everything. Actually wut works sometimes is letting him fall asleep for like a half hour since "hes too tired" then play with him and then jump on him when it gets up enough he will wake up once you start playing. And then he falls right back asleep The End! You dont have to hear his mouth! hahah
2006-11-09 07:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by young meat:) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in 40's, full time job, travel on business, ect and we average 4 to 7 times a week. If I'm not travelling, number goes up. I like it every night and mornings too but I have to get ready for work and don't like getting out of bed early.
2006-11-09 08:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to you on this subject because I have the same situation. Men have this idea that when they get married things in bed will always be the same so you have to think of ways to spice up your romance. Try to play out a fantasy of his or vice versa and it will help a great deal with starting his fire.
2006-11-09 07:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by homeiggyred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋