I have been broken up with my ex-boyfriend/baby's father for 6 months. He has recently started to date and it's driving me crazy. I think I'm starting to fall in love with him again, but we have a pending criminal case for domestic violence because he threw a bottle of perfume at my head. So I'm confused as to what the smart thing would be to do...follow my heart to be with him because i miss him and love him...or just keep on trucking and enjoy being a single mom!
2006-11-09 07:23:12 · 13 answers · asked by Megan L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have a baby now and your baby should be your first priority ALWAYS!!! You do not need your baby to grow up in a house with a man that has a tendency to abuse both physically and emotionally. Take care of yourself so you can take care of that baby. Be smart - your better off alone than with a man like that!!!!!
2006-11-09 07:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Megan,
Be smart.
If he really threw a bottle of perfume at you and intended to hurt you, what makes you think he might not lose his temper with your child one day and accidentally her the baby?
Also If what actually happened was that he was angry and threw in near you and you Know in your gut that he was just angry and never really intended to hurt you. And you may have actually provoked this reaction .then You need to stop the charges.
As far as getting him back.
Either Way I say NO
Let him move on
He deserves it.
And Obviosly it wasn't a mature relationship.
Grow ups don't pull that crap, and if they do they certainly don't involve the police.
Not unless its real.
My advice to you is to let him Go, and start living a NEW life.
Either way I think your main focus should be on your Child.
Not Getting him Back.
or Getting Back at him.
Think this time. Be a smart Woman.
Not a Naive little girl.
Your a mother now and your decisions affect your childs LIfe.
Don't ruin it for Her/Him too.
Hope this helps.
Good Luck
Meg
2006-11-09 07:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my kids dad april 2004 iv never stopped loving him in july 04 i started a relationship with someone else. My ex tried to get me back for a long time in the end he started to see other people currently i think he is still seeing someone what hurts me is that its casual and they are not serious it hurts cose hes sleeping around with her. He was abusive with me when we were together and to this day can still sometimes be verbally abusive. My answer to your Q is from my experience of this I think your feelings have resurfaced because he has moved on would you still feel the same if he was still single? For me Ill always love my ex but I probably wouldnt miss him as much if he was single.
2006-11-09 07:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by alexis m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it weren't for the violence I'd support your decision to try to get back with him but anytime there is criminal activity involved it is time to move on. You would never want your child to be a witness to you and him acting inappropriately. It'll be hard at first but you'll eventually get over him. You probably only feel you want him because he's with someone else right now and believe me, that feeling will pass. Just remember why you broke up in the first place.
2006-11-09 07:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy being a single mom. He has moved on and you should do the same.
2006-11-09 07:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So.............. if I threw a bottle of perfume at your head would you try to still be my friend after I began hanging out with other people?
I didn't think so.
2006-11-09 07:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by phillygirl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy being a single mom!!!! Don't look back!
2006-11-09 07:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question... "Did I feel like I wanted to get back with him before I knew he was dating again?".
If you didn't feel that way, I am guessing you only want him back because someone else has him.
2006-11-09 07:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell...BUT ENJOY BEING A SINGLE MOM! IT'S BETTER TO BE A HAPPY SINGLE MOM THAN DEAD!you get me dont you?if he has been violent it doesnt mean that he can be no more...he moved on you do it too...
2006-11-09 07:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Cutie... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have his fun. Don't trip off him, he is young and immature. Worry about your baby and trying to be the best mother.
2006-11-09 07:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋