Am I the only one who thinks a cheater should be dumped immediately? If they cheated on you, they can't love or respect you right?
2006-11-09 07:17:48 · 33 answers · asked by cyber_music 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People forgive cheaters because a)they may think they "deserve" to be cheated on, b)they are in denial about their cheater's propensity towards cheating, c)they have invested too many years in the relationship to want to give it up over one indescretion.
I agree that cheaters don't know how to love or respect their partner... I tend to think that "once a cheater, always a cheater.." but there are gray areas of "cheating." What do you consider cheating? I have a girlfriend who thinks if her man talks to another woman and has a serious conversation with her that he is cheating. I know another woman who doesn't care WHAT her man does, as long as he comes home at nite and brings that paycheck home... and used protection when he did what he did... So you can see where there is no cut-and-dried answer!!
2006-11-09 07:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the dilemma. Most times a person cheats because of themselves NOT because of you. They have issues that need to be addressed and they use the behavior (cheating) as a way to express that.
It also depends on the the relationship. Was it the first time in an otherwise good relationship or was it a serial offender? If they cheat all the time then they need to be dumped. If they only cheated once in a relationship that was stable before the offense, then think about working through it.
2006-11-09 07:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by goldenlifev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But that is your opinion, and nobody says that you are not right but you have to take in consideration what in there lives is going on, for example if they are still in love with that person, the time they spent with that person and all the memories as well and please let us not forget about if there is children involved....To forgive is devine...And if you can forgive them then you are capable in forgiving yourself...There is nothing wrong with a person wanting to forgive that is what God would have wanted you to do, but he didn't say forget either......
Let me tell you something if everybody did what you are thinking how would you think this world would be? (even though it is jacked up anyway) Also I have to agree with you about the love and the respect issue, it does look like they don't love or respect you but lady everyone and I say everyone deserves a chance to make things right so that means to forgive....Not to hate!
2006-11-09 07:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and resect have nothing to do with cheating,
But I wouldn't recommend dumping depending on life issues.
What if the girl has a child an no job, no money, no family and no support?
Think smart and choose the right opportunity to either leave or plan ahead.
besides when children are involved, ???? it always wrong just to give up, and only the other person in the relationship knows if that spouse actually has cause or if they are just a Hooker.
So just remember, each individual is a differnt case.
ok
2006-11-09 07:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Exactly! Those people are just suckers for punishment. I dont believe that a cheater should ever be given a second chance ever. There is no excuse and the very fact that they cheated says a lot about their character and thats not a type of person I'd ever go near.
2006-11-09 07:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by radiancia 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i believe that it depends on the reason... if someone just goes out and looks for someone else to have sex with then yea he/she needs to be put to the curb.. but then there are reasons like this say 2 people have been married for a long time one of them stops paying attention to the other doesnt tell them they love them or show any kind of affection so that person is out one night and someone says all the rite things the things that person has wanted to here for years and they feel loved and wanted and they cheat..... then maybe there is room for forgiveness because they may never ever do it again the motto once a cheat always a cheat is not always true..... j.m.o.
2006-11-09 07:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by momoftwobestkids 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's called love. Commitment, understanding, unconditional love. People make horrible mistakes sometimes, and if you love a person then you try to forgive and move on. I hope you are never put into a position where you love someone and they cheat on you, because believe me I have said what you are saying here and I changed my mind when it happened to me. So unless you have been in that situation you have NO idea what you will do. Trust me on that.
2006-11-09 07:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I say dump him! People with low self esteem keep forgiving cheaters.
2006-11-09 07:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Low self esteem. They feel they can't live with the cheater. I wouldn't trust a cheater. They are horny and don't care.
2015-07-04 12:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right girl and i am with you 100% i don't think i could ever take back someone that has cheated on me cause you just never now if he is still doing it .. and as for the respect part well he don't have any for you if he cheated on you ...
once a dog always a dog
2006-11-09 07:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋