So far he has not filled for the divorce. He's the one who walked out on me.
2006-11-09 07:14:02 · 16 answers · asked by betrayed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him to visit and see his son any time if is possible. Just be friendly to keep responsibility of careering for the boy future.
2006-11-09 07:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be fair in the divorce...Don't get run over by any means, but do not use the divorce as a tool to destroy him either. Second, if you have children, never talk down to them about him and ask him the same thing, that he never talk down about you to them. Establish a good understanding of what constitutes a good reason to call and don't just go over unannounced. Lastly and this is real hard, but do not let your feelings show if he has another woman in his life, treat her nice and don't cause a scene and don't get in their business. It is hard and with time it gets easier, but it is well worth it and if you have kids together, they will be spared a lot of grief.
2006-11-09 15:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there. He left me too. And bottom line is you did not have a healthy relationship and you never will. I had to learn the hard way that I had to maintain boundaries or he would continue to walk all over me. So now we discuss our son, that is ALL. If he wants to talk about women or his job I politely change back to our son. I am not his friend. He lost the right to my friendship when he lied, left, cheated on me. Be strong and don't let him use you. For anything.
2006-11-09 15:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by my_son_wants_to_know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to keep a healthy relationship is to acknowledge your share of responsibility, and move on. File for divorce, and don't look back.
2006-11-09 15:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now, avoid topics that cause conflict. If something comes up that needs to be addressed, maybe deal with it through e-mail. Try to keep an open line of communication. Try not to respond to things with your feelings for now. I am sure you are hurt so responding from the heart instead of the head leads to ugliness. Good luck.
2006-11-09 15:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a reason to still be in contact with them (kids) then treat it more like a business. Divorce is business.....Remember you are not married anymore, so there is no use in fighting..its pointless........If you dont have a reason to communicate, then just cut your losses and move on.
2006-11-09 15:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by Win the West!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have things that you need to keep civil about, then just think on it as a business relationship... Once everything has been sorted, then move on...
2006-11-09 15:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to deal with him, use a go-between. If you have a brother, sister, cousin or friend who is willing to help you out, use them. My ex caused our split and was too embarrassed to face me, so she had her sister take care of settling matters with the house when we sold it a year later.
2006-11-09 15:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Andreas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? Do your grieving, heal and move on. Don't get stuck in the past--live in the present, hope and plan for the future. And DON'T PUT UP WITH PEOPLE WHO TREAT YOU SHABBILY. :-}
2006-11-09 15:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be polite and civil, as you would be to a stranger or a policeman.
2006-11-09 15:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋