I am wondering if a judge will think it is wrong that I do not call my ex to see how our 2 month old son is. I could just text to avoid fighting with her or even contact my ex's mom to see how my son is but i dont will the judge care?
2006-11-09 07:07:40 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-09 14:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by liyah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who gives a damn about the court!? This is our son, not some boat or a house, but your own flesh and blood. If you really wanted to know about your son, you would call, hell you should be making strides to go about SEEING him. Don't let some divorce get in between the relationship you have with your son. If you are only texting her so you can look good in front of a judge, that doesn't mean that you care. If you don't care enough about your son, simply pay child support and stay out of his life. Everyone will be better off in the end.
2006-11-09 07:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes the judge will care! If you don't contact her concerning your newborn son the judge the mother in law and your x will assume that you don't care. If the marriage didn't work out that's one thing but being good parents is another. Perhaps you and your x can work together to become good parents to your son! A child always needs its parents but most important a son needs the support and love of a FATHER! Good Luck and do whats right!
One more thing pray and ask God to give you and your x peace between the both of you so that you guys can raise your child in peace.
2006-11-09 07:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its very wrong. Don't worry about what judge will say, think about what your son will say when he grows up and knows that you didn't even care to see how he is doing when he was only 2 months old. Why don't you stop worrying about fighting with her and start worrying about your child, call and see how he is, tell her that all you want to know is how the baby is. be a better person!
2006-11-09 07:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make any and every effort to see your son, see how he is doing, take him things he needs, make sure he is cared for. If for some reason there is any kind of restraining order against you, do it within the limits of the order. If you show now interest or interest that can be denied, you run the risk of losing any and all parental rights to him. Go prepared to not fight, go with only your son's interest in mind. Be nice to your ex, she is your ex and you no longer have any reason to fight with her.
2006-11-09 07:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call about your son. Because if it would come to a custody battle the judge would say you did not care enough to call about him. In fact you should go see him .even though it may ean a heated argument with your ex. You have to show interest in your children if you want custody . Whether you are separed or divorce
2006-11-09 07:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you will never know what the judge cares, but if i was a judge i would think you were worse off by NOT calling then to call and fight. at least you made the effort. remember if your judge is a woman, you are so screwed.
that is your son. call.
2006-11-09 07:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an a s s. You need to be over there checking on both of them. Make sure your son has everything he needs and make sure she's ok too. You brought this child into the world. You think a TEXT is going to make you a good Daddy? You are sadly mistaken.
2006-11-09 07:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the judge, what about you? Do you care? If you want to know about your son's well being call and text. If you are just doing it to make the judge happy, you need to rethink.
2006-11-09 07:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by fancyname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember you asking the other day about fighting your ex for custody, and her worried about your sobriety. If you do not keep in contact in reference to your son, then that can be used against you in some way. If it is legal in your state, then I would call her up and ask about him, that way if she gets rude or refuses, you will have it on tape. Ask your lawyer what he thinks, and tell him that you were afraid in the past because of confrontations with her, and ask about taping the convo. Good luck! :)
2006-11-09 07:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking this question because you really care about your son or you just want the judge to think you do?
If you care about him, ask the only person who can give you accurate information (his mom).
2006-11-09 07:12:42 · answer #11 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋