Hey there, my boyfriend's divorce has been in process over a year and their agreement states she cannot move out of the state we live in. He is currently deployed and she went and took the kids back to her home state, and told him that she likes it better there and is going to file another motion to move. She has filed them before and they have been denied. So he is in the Persian Gulf, she has the kids in her home state, what can he do? They have an agreement, she can visit her state but not move there, and the children have to be here when he returns from deployment. I thought I would throw this out there and see if anyone knows what he can do. This is not my battle to fight for him I know. The divorce is not yet final.
2006-11-09 07:06:47 · 5 answers · asked by my_son_wants_to_know 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well the problem isn't her being there while he is gone, I understand that completely. The problem is her saying that despite their agreement in court she is going to try and stay, and that is kidnapping. This is their issue but as his girlfriend I thought I would put this out and see if I could get him helpful information. I am not going to court with him, I don't call her, nothing like that. I am just looking for people with similar issues and some resources for him. They agreed to live here. His job is here. And now that he is deployed, she is trying to frustrate him and say she is not coming back. They are adults and made an agreement. So if you have real advice or resources, thank you. I will pass them on to him.
2006-11-09 07:24:42 · update #1
If he's not there, it shouldn't matter where she takes the kids. Fighting over where they're at during that time is just a power play for control freaks. If she doesn't move them back when he returns, then you can worry about it.
ETA: He's still legally married. Why is what his WIFE does your concern?
2006-11-09 07:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Shane 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he's out of the country, and she has family in her home state, I don't see why it would be a problem. The kids need as much family as possible, and if she has relatives and grandparents there, I think he should let it go for now and talk about it again when he returns. Do what's best for the kids right now. Maybe when he returns, he'll move closer to her so the kids have more family stability.
2006-11-09 07:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, first issues first. the place IS your loved ones in this? all of them must be coming collectively and ponying up money so as which you would be able to proceed. the hot boyfriend can't undertake your toddlers with out YOUR consent. What you prefer is an IL lawyer to grant you some advice. start up calling the closest criminal help society to the place you used to stay, and spot in case you ought to bodily return to IL with a view to acquire an injunction with a view to ward off this lady from leaving the state which incorporate your toddlers. Ask the lawyer how your rights as a father are tormented via the undeniable fact which you in no way married the mother. in case you prefer joint custody, ask the lawyer approximately this. What this could mean in fact is that the youngsters will divide their time between you and their mom till they are the right age for complete time college, at which era it particularly is going to be college holiday trips and summers with you. as quickly as you touch a criminal help lawyer, start up working extra time to get your self the type of interest or jobs you will ought to coach your wellness as a father to a courtroom. you're financially answerable for the help of your toddlers, as all fathers are, and your loved ones must be assisting you gain this as much as conceivable.
2016-10-03 11:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by elidia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don' t know how much he can do until he is back home. Looks like he may have to wait until then unless he has family or someone that can represent the case for him on his behalf.
2006-11-09 07:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG he is not even divorced and your with him already??? MAMA DRAMA you get what you deserve!!
2006-11-09 07:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Radtech1996 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋