Im 17 and 6 months pregnant. Im really happy with having a babygirl thats not why im depressed. I got married and came to live with my boyfriend in his parents house. Hes always trying to make me feel bad he calls me names and im very sentimental. so i cry. im also always thinking if hes cheating on me or not. hes always carrying his cellphone with him every where. he never lets me see it and once i grab it and saw a missing call from some girl he had cheated on me with. Well anyways is it bad to be crying like almost every day and be stress out?
2006-11-09 06:56:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No im not exagerating. for any reason he gets mad. and if he gets mad he starts calling me a *****, hoe, all this kinds of names i mean ive been with him since i was 15 he know he was my first one. when i first told him i was pregnant he said that i better have an abortion, he said i ruined his life and that i should of died. he also told me that he was never going to marry me. but we got married like a month ago. i tell him that im gonna go back with my parents because i caint take all the things hes doing to me. but hes starts to tell me that he loves me and that hes sorry and that im the only one. but i dont know if i should leave him for good already because i know that hes still talking to this other girl.
2006-11-09 07:17:18 · update #1
Yes stress can effect your baby. You should talk to him about it all. Me and my husband used to call each other names alot just joking around, now he knows he can't do that cause it will make me cry. Just talk to him and let him know how you feel about it all stress is not good.
2006-11-09 07:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal. When I was pregnant we decided to sell our house at the last minute I decided I did not want to do it my husband wanted to. We fought and I cried so much. My son is very happy.
My girlfriends brother died while she was pregnant. She of course was very upset and depressed. He son is also very happy.
Another girlfriend of mine told the man that she was in love with that she was pregnant and he left her. She was devastated. Her daughter is now 10 and she is a sweetheart and very happy.
Don't tell your boyfriend all this. Let him know that stress is very bad for you and the baby. It is not good for you to have to deal with the stress of pregnancy and your boyfriend, its not good for anyone.
One more thing, even though you are married and are having a baby with this man you do not have to stay with him. If he is cheating or you don't want to be treated like this anymore you can always raise this baby by yourself or perhaps your parents can help. You don't have to stay with someone that does not make you happy because you are married or pregnant.
Try and focus on the happiness that your baby girl is giving you when you get upset. Just change the subject in your brain. So your baby feels you being happy :)
2006-11-09 07:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by CaTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not really good for you, but it is normal. Your hormones are really going crazy right now and it is perfectly normal to feel depressed or to get your feelings hurt easily. I remember one time when I was pregnant I started crying in the video store because my husband wouldn't rent any of the movies I wanted to see. When he realized I was crying he just got this look and then I started laughing because I realized I was being silly, I just couldn't help it my feelings were hurt. Your boyfriend doesn't sound very supportive. He shouldn't be calling you names and all that. Just ask yourself. Is he really being mean (it kind of sounds like he may be) or are you just being overly emotional. I hope for your sake that you are, but you need to find someone to talk to either way. I hope he will step up and be a man. You need his support now more than ever. Good luck. If he doesn't start treating you better, maybe you could go stay with your parents for a while?
I'm so sorry for you. You should get out of this relationship. ASAP. Go back and live with your parents. Divorce him and make sure you get child support. Do not go back to him when he says he's sorry. If he treats you this badly when your 17 and pregnant then it will only get worse. Right now he's being emotionaly abusive, but I'm afraid it will escalate. This won't be good for you or your child. You deserve better than this. Good luck. And I mean it. Get out now.
2006-11-09 07:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is bad to be crying and stressed out. To be a little more weepy then you usually are is perfectly normal in pregnancy. But crying all the time and being stressed is not good for you or the baby. Any chance of you moving back in with your parents? If so, do it. 17 is awfully young to be getting married...
2006-11-09 07:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. You poor girl - this is the last thing you should be having to deal with right now. You need to seek marriage counseling before its too late. Not because of the baby, but because you deserve to be treated better. If he is acting like this so early into your marriage and while you are carrying his child, it will only get worse. But there is hope. You are both young and need to learn more about marriage and equal partnership. Good luck and congratulations on your baby.
2006-11-09 07:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah stress can really affect the baby
they way you act, eat, almost anything you do will affect the baby. it could be a big thing or even something small. if i were you i'd get out of that house or even relationship and go somewhere else if possible. the man cheated on you now, there is always a chance he can cheat on you again! its not worth it to make yourself and your baby unhappy
2006-11-09 07:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definately agree that you need to seek for suggestion from out of your clinical specialist or some different person that would probable help you to sense better effective. Your hormones are going loopy as we talk so as that could want to reason you to have transformations on your mood. I dont imagine that's going to damage the baby in any respect yet you definately dont elect to sense depressed each and every of the time. i imagine once you hit your 2d trimester you may want to sense better effective. distinctly if youve had any morning sickness and different first trimester blahs.
2016-10-16 08:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by zeckzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please consider moving back with your parents or moving in with another friend for a while if he is verbally abusing you (calling you names). This is a bad sign, especially considering what a short period of time. The fact that you are this stressed out is not a good thing, and it's a sign that you need to take care of yourself. It sounds like it has more to do with the situation than with anything else. One of the leading cause of marriages falling apart is getting together to young. A lot of people who are your age when they get together with there "baby's daddy" end up being abused. Please consider reaching out!
2006-11-09 07:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes that can effect your baby. maybe for so much stress and depression you can also loose your baby. and i bet you won't want that..my suggestion for you is to leave your boyfriend if he keeps treating you like that.even if you love him with all your heart.that is the best thing you should do.and when the baby girl grow up she would need you more than the dad. trust me on everything i tell you cause i need my mother more than my dad.i know if that child grows up and that boyfriend of yours treat you like that on front of your daughter.your daughter would be very sad and depressed. i know this what i just told you because this is happening to me as i am growing up.i feel very sad because i live with my dad in Boston and my mom is in Miami. trust me!!!!!!
2006-11-09 07:25:02 · answer #9 · answered by cuty cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is abosolutely normal , when your pregnant you just keep thinking up bad things in your head because your feeling insecure about yourself. I know how you feel. it's all the hormones in your body.
2006-11-09 07:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by amanda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋