according to the bible who comes first spouses or the children.?

Question

I got married to the catholic church the decon said to my husband your wife comes first. This is our second marriage and i am pregnant. I feel i can't bother my husband the kids seem to always come first although he only sees them every other Friday. My husband is always working and tired. I am feeling very pregnant. He does not want me to express how i feel or what i see.

where does it say in the bile

where does it say in the bile

Answer 1

I think your hormones are kicking in. First off, congratulations on your pregnancy. Now, your husband DOES care about you and your needs, but as you said, he's always working. You also mentioned that he only sees his kids once every other Friday. Perhaps this is why they seem to come first. He's taking full advantage of the time he has with them, when he has them. As far as him not wanting you to talk to him about how you feel, maybe he's just sick of hearing it. And I'm not saying that to be mean. I'm saying that because guys are wired different, they don't understand the need to get it out and talk and mull over our emotions, They hear a problem, they come up with a solution and that's it. My advise is to find a female friend or family member, take the time to put some makeup on, and if you're too tired to do it yourself, have someone else do your hair, go with your female friend out of the house to a coffee shop or somewhere more private and talk about your feelings. You may be pregnant, but you need to take some time pampering yourself.... good luck

Answer 2

I think the most specific scripture to deal with this would be 1 Tim 5:8 "But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel."

Pretty much, I think that says both are equally important. I'm not sure where people are getting that a spouse comes before children according to the Bible. It talks about how important spouses are more often, but it's historically been more of a problem for people to discard spouses than children, so that makes sense.

Answer 3

Yes, He is. If anything is more important than God, that means you're building your identity on something other than God, the meaning of idolatry. If it isn't the case that God means the most, pray and ask for help. Repent. The problem is that nothing else can give you what you're really looking for other than God. Not even your husband or children. So if you're building your identity on them, you're bound to be disappointed. Only God won't disappoint you.

Answer 4

1. Your personal relationship with God
2. Your spouse
3. Your children
4. Your extended family-your parents & family and his parents & family
5. Your job

A minister once told a male friend of mine-"The greatest single gift you can give your children is to love, respect and honor your wife. They will grow up in a secure home with a healthy value system to guide them through their marriage."

I couldn't have said it better.

Answer 5

the spouse comes first, but the heart doesn't care what the bible says, in his heart his kids come first and you need to learn how to deal with that. soon your kid will be just as important, patience is a virtue

Answer 6

He is also likely tired its not easy being a family rest from time to time,


a lot of losers will tell you to leave it sounds like you are both working hard to be a family and he is tired from being worked hard and you from being pregnant.

You can do it ok.

Answer 7

It's however you take it. However, my opinion is that your kids should come first because they are your own flesh and blood. You can't replace a child, you can replace a spouse.

Answer 8

the spouse

Answer 9

Each other first ( after God), because a happy couple makes happy parents.
This should be your priority list:
1)God
2)Family
3)Work
4)Friends

Answer 10

throw the bible out the window!