My husband of 10 years works construction and was on a job for 7 weeks and the whole time we talked while he was gone he acted normal and told me ho loved me and that i was his everything and he couldn't wait to get home. Also we just bought a new house and 4 acres of land are were planning on adopting in Jan of 07. He came home and told me that he had met another woman while he was gone and wanted to be with her and that he was leaving me. i was shocked. We had problems about 3 years ago but we dealt with them and have gotten along really well since. i thought things were better than ever so him saying he didn't love me anymore and was looking for something more was a total bombshell. Now keep in mind that he said this after he met her. He sold all his dogs and is moving closer to her. Totally not like him. He says she showed him what true love and passion is all about. Has he found true love that will last or is he going through a phase? Men and women help me out on this one.
2006-11-09 06:48:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know it sounds like he has got his mind made up. Acrtions speak louder than words.
You need need to go file for divorce, because he is cheating, that way you get alimony checks. Its going to be a bumpy ride but hang in there,
I know its hard to open that door and leave when you have no clue what is on the other side. But better leave than stay and play second to a cheating bastard. You are worth more and your divorce lawyer can get it for you.
Stay strong and go out and have fun, YOUR SINGLE NOW.and remember Karma will come back and bite him in the a*ss
2006-11-09 06:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Hon it sounds like the honeymoon has been way over for quite sometime now. Sounds like he's ready for a new beginning. I don't want to sugar coat what he did but the fact is he's no longer interested in your marriage. He's obviously not the man you married and he's changed to adapt to this woman's expectations not your own. I would do my best to dissolve the marriage as amicably as possible, get a decent settlement, keep the house, go shopping, pamper yourself silly on his dime while you still can, take time to mourn then heal and move on Sister. It's not the end of the world you know, he's a loser if you ask me and your going to be better off. This new woman is going to have to keep in mind that the man she's involved with is a cheater that left his wife for her. He's going get exactly what he deserves trust me.
2006-11-09 14:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey this is all to common and I feel sad for you .This man has'nt found true love just a new sex partner who turns him on it wont last but the problem is he is blinded by infatuation and possibly your marriage was getting a little unromantic and needed some more spicing up .You only have 2 choices let him go or seek marriage councelling .I would give anything to be with a loving wife like you and having a good job like his and our dream of a new home on a few acres .Any way what I would like does'nt matter to you just think and chose wisely .best of luck from john.
2006-11-09 15:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably letting his johnson think for him. Such drastic behavior is usually the result of "finally" getting what you want sexually -- for guys, anyway.
She is probably just giving him what he likes - perhaps what you guys were too used to do or had let slip away. But that's the fault of two people, not just one - and if he has any issues other than cheating on you - which he did in my book - he has certainly taken them with him to her bed.
What? He met her when cheating on you - what makes her think he won't meet her replacement the same way?
Men are just as much to blame, but if women would stop betraying each other by screwing married men, this wouldn't happen so often. It seems some women have to prove they can do your man better than you can - at least for a little while.
Cheaters deserve each other - count yourself lucky that this is his last affair with you and move on.
2006-11-09 15:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is terrible. Are you SURE that he was saying those nice things to you before he met her?? Maybe he was trying to keep you from being suspicious. I find it hard to believe that it happened that fast, I'm sure that he was seeing her longer than he admitted to you. At least there isn't a child in the middle of this, that's the ONLY thing I can say positive about this situation. Please think about seeing a counselor, this is a lot for you to have to deal with alone. My husband left suddenly for another woman, and we had 2 babies. Turns out he was seeing her for a while. You are better off without him and his lies. He's going to realize what he's lost and he'll be sorry. I'm sorry this happened to you.
2006-11-09 15:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by WiccaWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just might be getting his second wind as the old saying goes.But that does not give him the right to do you that way.But right now he thinks the grass is greener on the other side.And he could not of loved you to much.And if you wasn't good enough for him or pretty or beautiful enough you don't need him any way.But what goes around comes around..But if things don't work out with the other lady he just might come begging you back..And i would not take him back...
2006-11-09 15:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Joann Terry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question ; Why didn't you go with him or at least go visit him, while he was gone?
Sounds to me like he found someone to fill the void while he was gone.
I hope you find happiness in your life - without him.
BTW 10 years is the magic number - get an attorney!
See "how happy he is" WITHOUT 1/2 his pension and paying you alimony every month!
2006-11-09 14:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever he is going through...move on sista! Get yourself a new life and a new attitude! I hope that you do not have children in this case. Let him go because you maybe waiting for someone who may never come back. Remember...What go's around, comes around. I know that it sounds real easy for me to say, but you can do it. I did!!! And go out and get yourself some new clothes a new doo, and try to enjoy your life. Get up every morning and say SOMETHING GOOD IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO ME TODAY !!!!!!!!!!! I know that it is! If you have to mourn for a little while, than do it. But keep your head up girl and move on. I know that you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-09 14:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If he is ready to give up, maybe you should let him. Why fight for someone that is making a stupid mistake, and doesn't want to be with you? Itcould be a possiblity that he has been cheating all this time, and just now decided to share it with you, you never know. Good luck!
2006-11-09 14:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I know that hurt... what a shock... I'd die right on the spot. If you can get him to go to counseling it would be good. He sounds like he''s made up his mind. Don't you just hate it when men pull stunts like that.
2006-11-09 14:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋